It is amazing what one can get accomplished at home in a day. I have trouble with being home and just “being with myself”, in case you didn’t notice, lol. I ALWAYS have plans, I rarely have down time, and I feel like I am wasting time if I sit down to watch a TV show. Maybe even a little guilt there. I am not sure why I feel that way. Anyway, yesterday I was home all day - except for a food shopping run. I made a massive bowl of chicken salad, got my meatloaf ready in the pan for today, did my workout plus one section of another DVD, laundry, yardwork, layed in the backyard for a bit (the heat was intolerable) and caught up on 3 episodes of Bridezillas that I DVR’d. (I think I am developing a habit with that show, it’s crazy! lol) Fried more eggplant too - the kids loves it.
Today there will not be a lot of downtime: work, therapy, dinner, workout, laundry/tomorrow’s lunch prep/bed.
Food:
Today my Punch, Kick and Jab DVD is supposed to arrive, so I will be trying that out tonight.
So, today is one week of no phone calls from MBFF, though she has been texting me the last 4 days once per day, checking on the kids rooms, and has been pleasant. Yesterday I read a chapter of a book I am reading that could have been written about her and I, and the need to set boundaries. It was very interesting. I don’t believe she is at a point that she would understand this though … if I said to her that I wanted to set some boundaries, I feel like she would have a panic attack right then and there, sigh. So, her being angry (? - not sure what her reasoning is) with my trip and not speaking to me is really a blessing in disguise, because I feel like she is really laying the groundwork necessary for the changes that need to come.
Okay work keeps preventing me from writing more, lol, so I shall publish …
lindat
August 17th, 2009 at 2:25 pm
I have trouble just “being” as well. The one time I can remember really not doign anything was on a business trip I took to WA a few years ago. it was jsut over ngiht, but after the day at work, I got back to my room and literally had nothing to do but relax. I was forced to just BE. It was really eye opening because even if we are relaxing at home, our minds are making lists of things we need to do.
kotapaint
August 18th, 2009 at 8:53 am
I have two speeds. Fast and stop. Stop is usually when I’m asleep. Probably not a good thing for me.
It is beyond my comprehension that your MBFF would be upset that you are leaving for a vacation so much so that she cannot bring herself to call you like she used to call. However, I think you are exactly right–her little snit is setting the boundary–”If you cannot be happy for me, then we really don’t need to interact multiple times a day.” Who has time for that kind of contact anyway? It’s exhausting. Reminds me of DD and her 18-19 year old self-absorbed friends and their phones in their hands 24/7 texting and being on facebook. For heaven sakes, adolescents, there is life to live beyond the minutia of their “conversations”…!!!
Hope you have an absolute wonderful vacation. The kids’ rooms look great.