Comments on: We’re getting there

By: lindat

lindat — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 21:15:55 +0000

So don’t tell her.. You don’t need anyone’s approval but your own and if she is going to make you feel crappy, then don’t say a word.. and really, what kind od a real friend does that? As sad as it may be, some friendships aren’t emant to alst forever. Doesn’t eman they weren’t valuable, but some have an expiration date IMHO

By: Kelly

Kelly — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:54:24 +0000

Thanks guys. She is actually in therapy, and has done a few more sessions than I have (diff therapist of course). She acknowledges that she has problems - no boundaries - with her own mother and another person in her life, but she doesn’t see that she oversteps her boundaries with me. Actually, when I get upset if she is critical about something I say, she says that I just “can’t handle the truth”. ANYtime anyone doesn’t agree with her, that is her comeback - they can’t handle the truth, don’t like hearing the truth, etc. Sure, I admit, I am far from perfect and I am sure that not every decision I make is the right one, but this extends far beyond that.

By: loosingme

loosingme — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:40:21 +0000

I agree with above….maybe MBF needs to have T more than you do. I am beginning to think her issues are the root, and yours are just the offspring.

Yes, yes, I actually thought about staying up this morning…LOL Another night like this, and I may actually do that!

And I do hope you will be able to use some if not all of the clothes, if not, feel free to pass them along to someone who can.

By: kotapaint

kotapaint — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:36:32 +0000

Have to agree with L705, if you are anxious about telling your friend something good about yourself, then something is definitely not right with that relationship. Sounds like friend has abandonment issues of her own?

By: laura705

laura705 — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 16:59:36 +0000

Something’s definitely not right when you can’t tell a friend something good without feeling anxious about it. You’ll probably learn how to deal with it with your T, but if your friend really doesn’t want you to move on or can’t accept it, that jeopardizes the friendship.

Be careful moving everything!