Comments on: Note to self http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/07/27/note-to-self/ 100 Pounds Gone Forever Fri, 25 May 2012 04:22:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: kotapaint http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/07/27/note-to-self/#comment-676 kotapaint Tue, 28 Jul 2009 12:32:42 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=171#comment-676 Fat is often the by product of unhappiness. Stay with the therapy not the tootsie rolls. For many of us Rejection/Abandonment/"I wasn't good enough" is a problem in childhood, relationships, etc.-- even though consciously we don't think we feel that way. I think then many of us become "helpers", "pleasers", etc. (makes us great employees, but it is exhausting...) Which in turn makes it difficult to take care of ourselves, because we are too busy taking care of everybody else whether its family, work, volunteering, etc. Not that those people/things aren't important, but many of us do them to the exclusion of taking care of ourselves. And I also believe PS's idea has some merit! I know sometimes I need to just BE and be content...:0 For what it is worth, there's my 2 cents... (((hugs))) Fat is often the by product of unhappiness. Stay with the therapy not the tootsie rolls. For many of us Rejection/Abandonment/”I wasn’t good enough” is a problem in childhood, relationships, etc.– even though consciously we don’t think we feel that way. I think then many of us become “helpers”, “pleasers”, etc. (makes us great employees, but it is exhausting…) Which in turn makes it difficult to take care of ourselves, because we are too busy taking care of everybody else whether its family, work, volunteering, etc. Not that those people/things aren’t important, but many of us do them to the exclusion of taking care of ourselves. And I also believe PS’s idea has some merit! I know sometimes I need to just BE and be content…:0 For what it is worth, there’s my 2 cents… (((hugs)))

]]> By: paperskin http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/07/27/note-to-self/#comment-675 paperskin Tue, 28 Jul 2009 03:23:35 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=171#comment-675 Sometimes it is hard to just be content. We always feel like we should be striving for something. But, we really have to look at all we do have. You have 3 beautiful children, you have a house, you have your health, you have your friends, you have a job.. You have so much more than most people on this earth have, and sometimes we have to look at all we do have, and stop looking at what we don't have. The glass is more than half full. Sometimes it is hard to just be content. We always feel like we should be striving for something. But, we really have to look at all we do have. You have 3 beautiful children, you have a house, you have your health, you have your friends, you have a job.. You have so much more than most people on this earth have, and sometimes we have to look at all we do have, and stop looking at what we don’t have. The glass is more than half full.

]]> By: erinlynn http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/07/27/note-to-self/#comment-674 erinlynn Tue, 28 Jul 2009 03:22:00 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=171#comment-674 goodness kelly, how this rang true to my chubby little ears. and lindat's response only makes that ringing louder. you are both so absolutely right. it isn't the fat. it will never be the fat. when the fat is gone, something else becomes the obsession and then something else and something else and so on, all efforts to block whatever it is that you (or me, or anyone) aren't ready to deal with. I agree with lindat in that therapy is a great support and tool to help discover what that thing may be. keep on peeling and hopefully soon, you'll reach the answer. best of luck and know that you are not alone in this feeling. goodness kelly, how this rang true to my chubby little ears. and lindat’s response only makes that ringing louder. you are both so absolutely right. it isn’t the fat. it will never be the fat. when the fat is gone, something else becomes the obsession and then something else and something else and so on, all efforts to block whatever it is that you (or me, or anyone) aren’t ready to deal with.

I agree with lindat in that therapy is a great support and tool to help discover what that thing may be. keep on peeling and hopefully soon, you’ll reach the answer. best of luck and know that you are not alone in this feeling.

]]> By: lindat http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/07/27/note-to-self/#comment-673 lindat Tue, 28 Jul 2009 02:34:19 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=171#comment-673 Honey. It never was the fat. FaT was a shield, and now that shield is gone.. You have to deal with why you put that up in the first place. What's really eating you? That is why therapy is a good idea for you, since you still are struggling. You though the weight loss would make you happy. It didn't. You thought the plastic surgery would make you happy. It didn't. And I am really afraid that is part of why you may be taking up with R again... to find something to make you happy. For most of us, the food wasn't what we really were hungry for when we ate and got fatter and fatter.. it was something else. Food was just a panacea. Stay with the therapy. To use another food analogy, this is like the layer of an onion.. you have to keep peeling to get at the center of it. Honey. It never was the fat. FaT was a shield, and now that shield is gone.. You have to deal with why you put that up in the first place. What’s really eating you? That is why therapy is a good idea for you, since you still are struggling. You though the weight loss would make you happy. It didn’t. You thought the plastic surgery would make you happy. It didn’t. And I am really afraid that is part of why you may be taking up with R again… to find something to make you happy.

For most of us, the food wasn’t what we really were hungry for when we ate and got fatter and fatter.. it was something else. Food was just a panacea. Stay with the therapy.

To use another food analogy, this is like the layer of an onion.. you have to keep peeling to get at the center of it.

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