Late check in, again. Busy busy busy lately. I am finally home, still working, but all the meetings are behind me and I think the rest of the day will be quiet.
Kids checkup was this morning, everyone is healthy. I mentioned DD’s weight to the ped again, but she seems unconcerned. She is the exact opposite of the last ped I had (who was doing bone scans and suggest growth stunting medication for DD, insane) and is very relaxed with the attitude that she will just always be a little bit bigger girl. Well, that very well may be, but it isn’t exactly the answer I want from the doctor. What she doesn’t get - which I always explain - is that in general, (okay yeah despite my crazy dinner yesterday), my kids are healthy eaters. They eat salmon and they like vegetables. I watch portions. In my house, everything is lightened or reduced fat. Ice cream is only served in 1/2 cup servings. And yes, there are doritos - and if I give them some, they get one serving. But then for dessert, they would have fruit because they had doritos earlier, etc. So I think I am really on top of those things, and THAT is not the problem. The problem is somehow, at her young age, DD loves food, and eats whether she is hungry or not. My boys will turn down a pc of chocolate or a cookie if they aren’t hungry. MBFF almost died laughing when DS6 turned down ice cream from the ice cream truck because he had ice cream the night before. (He actually said that to her! lol) My DD though … she could have just eaten a huge dinner, had dessert, and would ask for DS’s leftovers. Last night, we baked cupcakes together. (healthy cupcakes, without oil! and with fresh cherries) DD ate hers, and DS6 didn’t like it because he didnt like the cherry filling. DD asked for his, and I told her no. Then DS picked out a peach instead for dessert because he didn’t eat his cupcake. I literally stood there in anticipation, and sure enough it happened - he left the kitchen, and I hear DD’s footsteps running to the kitchen to ask for a peach.
She isn’t hungry!! So this is nothing about “cutting out the starches” in her meals. Do you understand? Because I don’t think the doctor gets what I am saying. It has nothing to do with replacing whole milk with 2% … she already drinks skim or 1%. Her cheese is lowfat. She eats 3 healthy meals and two snacks per day. If she picks a cookie for snack, her snack is two reduced fat oreos. I limit her fruit juice. She drinks water. She goes hiking and walking with me. She has her own workout videos that we sometimes do together, and sometimes she likes to do them herself, for fun! She generally is an active little girl! But, she LOVES FOOD. She can’t, or just doesn’t, distinguish between when she is actually hungry to when she is bored, etc. I’m not looking for advice on how to put a kid on a diet, that isn’t the answer. I am looking to understand why/how she has already developed this relationship with food, and how I can fix it.
Although I suppose if I knew that, I could fix my own.
Hip is a little better today. There is a yoga/pilates class tonight … I am contemplating going. I don’t know if they hips track would be too much strain on it, or if the stretching might actually be a good thing.
Food … breakfast was … forgot. Oh, lenders bagel with smear of brummel&brown, coffee. Didn’t get to eat my snacks. Ham on 100 cal flatbread for lunch. Dinner is tilapia and zucchini risotto, yum!
Okay, back to work.
PS - FINALLY! I have a therapy appointment! Lol! Next Tuesday. Woo Hoo!
paperskin
June 30th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
How old is your DD? I’m just wondering if she’s hitting puberty.. sometimes a growth spurt can really make them starvingly hungry at all times.
loosingme
June 30th, 2009 at 6:03 pm
paperskin might be right….a growth spurt can make them hungry all the time. I think if she is proportionate…..height to weight on the growth chart, you probably shouldn’t worry too much. Kids change. I think telling her when she can’t have certain things is very reasonable. Kids are kids….some like treats way more than others….actually, at her age, I would be more concerned about her feeling she has to “diet” and turn things down, ya know? Just be careful. Too much emphasis on this sort of thing can lead to serious eating disorders….and not just overeating…but way more serious problems. You are a good mom….you just don’t want her to experience the same problems you had. Maybe your therapist can give you some insight. HUGS!
Kelly
June 30th, 2009 at 7:03 pm
Thanks ladies …
Yes, but DD is only 6 years old. It isn’t a physical hunger - it is her love of junk food, lol. I am careful to not “ban” things from her; I don’t want my kids to ever feel like they are on a diet but rather just have a healthy appetite for generally good for you foods. Does that make sense? I truly do believe in “Anything in Moderation”! But DD doesn’t get the moderation part … and it concerns me. She wants anything her brothers have JUST to have it, even if she’s full and just had a snack.
So the ped’s answer of maybe “cutting out some starches” isn’t really the answer, lol.
I read a book that said children with two overweight parents have an 80% chance of being overweight/obese. I just don’t want her to inherit this struggle.
loosingme
June 30th, 2009 at 9:43 pm
Kelly, I sent you an email….