as for DS…did you check the computer for any chat msgs from him telling his friend that “u suck”? LOL.

as for the boss…EXACTLY! when did i become my boss’ slave? feeding, cleaning up after, taking to the vet, arranging for adoption for his cat? when did i become his gf’s slave? book airline, book hotel…but it has to be f-ing hotel in italy where a bloody nun stayed at before the age of dawn. like, seriously? come on! you should shove a pretzel in your boss’ mouth. LMAO. i’m crazy, i know.

as for the kids…i agree. mine ask for stuff all the time and i just say nope, i don’t have the money. you’ll have to wait until pay day. but ask them to buy an ice-cream from their little stash…they seem to forget that they have money b/c we give it to them otherwise they’d have nothing.

Sorry your boss is a jacka$$.

HUGS Kel. Hope today is better.

sorry about the boss stuff. Ya, that sucks. Crappy place to have to be in!!

hugs, hugs and more hugs! Your baby is growing up. Welcome to the wonderful world of hormonal changes! LOL

Chemical dependencies screw belief systems up big time. Chemically dependent family systems are more common than not. You are SO NOT alone–great idea to vent about it. I think writing is neat aid to our processing–we think a little more about our words. It’s nice here at 3fc that you can get feedback and e-hugs!

*hugs* =D
Tawnya

I made chore lists for my kids and I caught crap from them about it off and on for years…”We’re slaves”…”ALL we do is WORK”… Etc. They are very good at using words like NEVER, ALWAYS, FOREVER, etc. along with much eye rolling, hair flipping, dirty looks, etc. The kind of behavior you just want to slap into next week…but you hold back. And decide to withhold privileges and luxuries. Sigh. It is a constant battle.

However, it does pay off in the end. DD thanks me quite often for teaching her well, making her work, handling money, etc.

I think when the kids were 12, I made them work 1/2 hour to 1 hour after school and four hours on Saturday or Sunday–depending on their extracurriculars and homework load. They were paid. And so began the managing $, buying stuff lessons… “Is such and such worth four hours of your time working?” Etc.

And LT, my daughter says that she is ashamed for her poor behaviors in her “youth”. I tell her not to be ashamed for realizing her behavior was ungrateful, but to be proud that she now knows the difference. I tell her I didn’t expect to parent without pain anymore than I expected birth to be without pain. It is what it is. (But Kelly, some days you want to pound their butts into the ground and slap the smirk off their faces…!)

One of my favorite lines Kel was to tell the kids, “Hey, you didn’t come with an owner’s manual. I’m doing the best I can. If you don’t like the job I did when you are a finished product, feel free to raise your kids however you want…” LOL Probably didn’t make a pinch of difference, but it made me feel better….

As for the boss. What a turd. You are the GO TO gal, the fixer, the doer, so he picks up the phone and calls the person who gets the job done…even if the job isn’t yours to do…it’s a back handed compliement. However, hope you are able to set some boundaries so he doesn’t abuse your good nature.

Went to gym, completed W2D1 C25K and my weights. Drinking 3rd bottle of water now. Coloring hair. All is okay.

Hugs!

Glad you could let it out here!!