All I can do this morning is wonder how she is, what she is doing, what it is like. Her sister never called me last night. I hate to be a pest but if I don’t hear from her, I will give her a call this afternoon. I have to face MBFF tonight and I haven’t mentioned SBFF (they are friendly, but not friends like they would do something together without me, but all three of us do hang together sometimes) and MBFF always asks how SBFF is … and she is going to ask tonight and I will crumble. It’s okay. I just keep telling myself that this is for the best and she needs this help. I just want her to get better, but I know that this is a big process. DD saw me crying last night, I told her Aunt **** was sick but she was going to the doctor. DD was very concerned and asked if she had a fever, lol. So sweet.
Okay … I have a glorious dentist appt to deal with this morning, I will save this and post more from work later.
I’m back. (I do like the save option here). I read all your comments. Thanks so so so much. It is nice to come and talk about it, because she is embarrassed and I cannot tell anyone, and I won’t do that to her. I am still waiting to hear something … does anyone know if they are allowed visitors? I guess it could vary. I am pretty sure if I call, for HIPAA laws or whatever, they won’t let me speak to her. This is consuming me, all I can think about. I cried all the way to work wondering what she felt like when she woke up this morning.
Alright, going to try and have a semblance of a normal day. MBFF’s 3 kids are coming to sleep over tonight, so I promised a “Welcome Spring Slumber Party”. I haven’t quite figured out what that is yet, lol. I am going to make BBQ chicken and corn on the cob and mac and cheese … kid approved foods. And pastel-sprinkled cupcakes. I have to say - last night I kept wanting to make the buttercream icing for the cupcakes so that I could make extra and eat some. My classic coping mechanism. But I didn’t! Had a Coke Zero, watched Greys and went to bed. I did do some little house stuff - rehung a coat hanging thing, changed the oven light bulb and one of the recessed lighting in the kitchen which is a real PITA. And I just had to laugh … 8 pot lights in the kitchen, changed the one last night, woke up this morning and a different one blew out! And they last like 5 years, go figure! lol Oh, and did my yoga/pilates as planned … that was 40 minutes, I didn’t do the treadmill after.
Today is exercise day off, although something tells me I won’t have a lack of exercise tonight with 6 kids sleeping at home. Unfortunately today is COLD here in NY, so probably won’t be taking our walk to the playground. That stinks.
Foodie -
B: Nutrigrain lowfat waffles, light syrup, coffee
L: Campbells Select Italian Wedding soup, 6 saltines
S: GS Apple
D: Unsure, I don’t really like BBQ chicken so maybe will just make myself tuna or something
Not sure about tomorrow’s date. Clearly not in the mood really. That’s still up in the air. I am starving … counting down the minutes until lunch, lol.
lindat
March 20th, 2009 at 12:04 pm
All you can doi is call the hospital and ask. They may not permit it for the first 48-72 hours if they feel a visitor would disrupt things. If she is threatening suicide, even a well meaning visitor might not be the best thing for her right now. That is up to the docs.. so call.
Please do go on your date. Just like eating when you are stressed, staying at home and fretting is NOT going to help your friend
loosingme
March 20th, 2009 at 12:34 pm
agreed with Linda. Call the hospital and ask. Call the sister too. Not a pest, just concerned is all.
And yes, go out on the date. You seem to enjoy his company, and he makes you laugh. Might be a good distraction. I am sure this situation is weighing heavy on your mind and consuming your thoughts….being with “BOB”( thats what wer are calling him…right? LOL) will be a nice vaca from all of the thinking and over thinking your are surely doing with your friend.
GL with the kids tonite! LOL
HUGS!
ruthxxx
March 20th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
Hugs to you and your friend, Kelly. I have a similar situation - a guy suffering from PTSD and he was not allowed visitors for a while. It’ll be hard but I’m sure you can keep in touch with cards or phone calls if allowed.
Try to carry on with the “fun” things in your life and try to avoid telling your other friend if you can as it sounds like she has a real blabbermouth mother. (I stopped telling mine anything when I turned 18 so it was never a problem!)
loosingme
March 20th, 2009 at 2:56 pm
LOL….dd and ds usually start school at 7:30 am! ds gets the bus at 7am…dd drives herself. LOL DD gets to go in late this week only. because if you pass all the tests as a sophomore, you don’t need to retake them as a junior or a senior. so while those kids that need another shot at passing get a chance, those that have already passed, don’t need to come in until 10 this week.
espencer
March 20th, 2009 at 3:21 pm
Gosh, Kel, I’m so sorry. I missed your post yesterday. It must be so so hard. You just have to keep reminding yourself that she is safe now and doing the best thing she possibly could have. Call the sister!
And go on the date!
Find her a cute little blank card and drop it in the mail today. Only 2 hrs away, she should have it tomorrow or monday at the latest and you will know that she knows you are thinking of her.
laura705
March 20th, 2009 at 3:52 pm
Do try and phone your friend if you are allowed.
majestichollyhock
March 20th, 2009 at 9:18 pm
(((hugs))))
fatgirlagain
March 21st, 2009 at 9:31 am
HUGGGS I am so sorry about your friend , have fun with the extra kids around!