Comments on: Stunned http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/03/19/stunned/ 100 Pounds Gone Forever Fri, 25 May 2012 03:49:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: lindat http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/03/19/stunned/#comment-71 lindat Fri, 20 Mar 2009 14:21:38 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=12#comment-71 Speaking as someone who has dealt with clinical depression for 15 years now, I can tell you the problem isn't men. The problem is her lack of self esteem that has spiraled out of control and must have turned into some sort of deep depression or psychosis and a real illness. You don't get sent to a psych hospital just because you are sad. It is serious stuff. Men are just a symptom of the illness, just like for some people ( me) obesity was a symptom of mine. When you see her, be sure to confirm her decision to go to the hospital. There is still a stigma associated with mental illness and she probably is feeling embarassed and weak. I know I felt terrible at first, like I was just a wimp and I should have been able to just suck it up and deal with it. But beign depressed for so long changes the body's chemistry and sometimes you cannot find the right mix of meds/therapy as an outpatient. I really hope she is sucessful and let her know we are all pulling for her! Speaking as someone who has dealt with clinical depression for 15 years now, I can tell you the problem isn’t men. The problem is her lack of self esteem that has spiraled out of control and must have turned into some sort of deep depression or psychosis and a real illness. You don’t get sent to a psych hospital just because you are sad. It is serious stuff. Men are just a symptom of the illness, just like for some people ( me) obesity was a symptom of mine.

When you see her, be sure to confirm her decision to go to the hospital. There is still a stigma associated with mental illness and she probably is feeling embarassed and weak. I know I felt terrible at first, like I was just a wimp and I should have been able to just suck it up and deal with it. But beign depressed for so long changes the body’s chemistry and sometimes you cannot find the right mix of meds/therapy as an outpatient. I really hope she is sucessful and let her know we are all pulling for her!

]]> By: loosingme http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/03/19/stunned/#comment-70 loosingme Fri, 20 Mar 2009 13:49:47 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=12#comment-70 aw....HUGS kelly. Well, one thing for sure is, you can't fix her....she needs to heal with the help of professionals and with the grace of God and herself. It must be very hard to sit back and not DO anything...as I know you are a "doer." All you can do at this point, is let her know, that you will be there for her, no matter what, you won't abandon her. And that doesn't mean you need to be there physically, but just "be there." you know what I mean. she is ill, and definitely needs help and thank god, like you said, others around her heard her cries. I am sorry you have to deal with this. You ARE a great friend. Big, big hugs to you!!!! aw….HUGS kelly. Well, one thing for sure is, you can’t fix her….she needs to heal with the help of professionals and with the grace of God and herself. It must be very hard to sit back and not DO anything…as I know you are a “doer.” All you can do at this point, is let her know, that you will be there for her, no matter what, you won’t abandon her. And that doesn’t mean you need to be there physically, but just “be there.” you know what I mean.

she is ill, and definitely needs help and thank god, like you said, others around her heard her cries.

I am sorry you have to deal with this. You ARE a great friend. Big, big hugs to you!!!!

]]> By: canadagirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/03/19/stunned/#comment-69 canadagirl Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:58:37 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=12#comment-69 wow I am sure glad that your friend is getting some help it is amazing what a man or stress can do to our minds or how we function. Dido to madcat she should be so proud of herself for taking the steps to get some help and she should be honoured to have a friend like yourself have a great day wow I am sure glad that your friend is getting some help it is amazing what a man or stress can do to our minds or how we function. Dido to madcat she should be so proud of herself for taking the steps to get some help and she should be honoured to have a friend like yourself
have a great day

]]> By: laura705 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/03/19/stunned/#comment-68 laura705 Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:13:07 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=12#comment-68 Sorry your friend got to this point, but hopefully she will get the help she needs. My neighbor just went through that, and I think she's going to therapy sessions, which she's done off and on in the past. Her family is trying to control her activities now - she's not supposed to be driving, or using her cell phone or laptop and they are trying to get her off her meds. I don't know if any of it is working, or how much she's going along with. All I know is she's having a LOT of purchases/packages delivered to our house and it's a secret. She didn't ask in advance, she just did it, but it's starting to bug us that she's drawn us into the subterfuge. So the therapy sessions she does with her husband probably are not as effective as they could be... Sorry your friend got to this point, but hopefully she will get the help she needs. My neighbor just went through that, and I think she’s going to therapy sessions, which she’s done off and on in the past. Her family is trying to control her activities now - she’s not supposed to be driving, or using her cell phone or laptop and they are trying to get her off her meds. I don’t know if any of it is working, or how much she’s going along with. All I know is she’s having a LOT of purchases/packages delivered to our house and it’s a secret. She didn’t ask in advance, she just did it, but it’s starting to bug us that she’s drawn us into the subterfuge. So the therapy sessions she does with her husband probably are not as effective as they could be…

]]> By: madcat http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/2009/03/19/stunned/#comment-67 madcat Fri, 20 Mar 2009 01:42:31 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/kelly/?p=12#comment-67 Sometimes life is just stupid because... It's good that your friend is getting the help that she needs. There should be no shame in needing help and getting it. Sometimes life is just stupid because… It’s good that your friend is getting the help that she needs. There should be no shame in needing help and getting it.

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