Summer Days
I am doing relatively all right. For some reason my appetite has gone down. I am rejoicing it for as long as it lasts. My mom is making me eat lots of fruit though. In this heat, that’s the only thing that seems palatable. I know I typed that!!!! 
It is unthinkable, really. We are eating a lot of sapodilla, mango, pomegranate, sweet lime, watermelon, papaya, pineapple and bananas too. I am enjoying the sweetness and the juiciness.
It is nearly 30 deg Celsius over here, that too after we had a couple of thunder storms. Before that it went up to 37 deg Celsius and was awfully hot. Actually
Bangalore is relatively cooler. The plains of India are burning up. I was watching a cricket match today which was being played in the beautiful historical city of
Jaipur. The temperature there was 45 deg Celsius and the poor players had to play in that heat for about three hours. The heat there is dry which is slightly better for playing than the humid heat of Chennai (Madras) and Calcutta. Anyway there are more showers predicted till end of May which should keep Bangalore cooler.
Yesterday R’s topic came up with mom. She is much angrier than I am. She had taken the news of his marriage rather calmly. But she is bitter and angry at how R had been flaunting his marriage and how he caused me so much physical and emotional pain. Anyway the thing is that talk with her did not upset me too much. But it will change once I go back to work. R is not some one who will let me alone after what he has done. He will pretend friendship and continuously be making overtures as if nothing has changed and try to get personal information from me. I know it sounds paranoid but he is not a nice guy. But it is difficult for me to stay on guard all the time at work. Anyway I am going to face it all some how and I need to remember how toxic he is.
Nothing much is going on. I am still facing a little trouble in concentrating on work. But I am generally happier. I am watching some cricket nowadays. I have got a lot of good books from library – mostly fast read types. Reading “Mystic River” by Dennis Lehane now. I like his style of writing.
Lots of love to all of you.
rubyjean said,
May 2, 2008 @ 11:08 am
Ini, if you think about it I’m sure you could come up with some comment that would be polite and seemingly innocuous, but would let R know that you’re not interested in his friendly overtures. Come on, let’s have a think. The easiest and most powerful think I can think of is unemotional honesty. People are caught off guard by this, as in, “excuse me, but why do you find it necessary to be so rude to me?” said disarmingly has worked for me in a slightly different situation, but the woman who was being rude was probably expecting something sharper or a retort and it totally got her stammering and apologising.
I recall days of heat like that in SA. On Caroline’s third birthday, it was 45 C in our town, and out where my sister and b-i-l farmed, it was 50. They lost some livestock that day, and many old people (and babies) succumbed to heat stroke.
Good for you on the fruit. Lots of water, too, I hope. Good for you on the indifferent appetite. It’s a gift - get as much mileage out of it as you can.
Love,
RubyJean
islandgrl said,
May 4, 2008 @ 5:30 pm
Fruit is good for you, and almost calorie free! I agree with Rudy Jean, sometimes you just have to challenge them in a polite way.
When people ask me things that are rude or none of their business, I just smile at them and ask, Why would you ask me that?” Believe it or not, it works
anngirl said,
May 4, 2008 @ 7:04 pm
Hang in there hon - one of these days it won’t hurt anymore and you’ll stop being angry. It’s just that it’s too close to you right now (literally - you have to work with the guy) - I can’t imagine how difficult that must be.
But deep breaths and ignoring his personal questions might set him in the right direction. I’ve ignored them myself at times and people catch on that they are not privileged to that information. It’s only for people I trust and love.
I’m glad you’re eating well and feeling better.
It’ll be over soon ok? Lots of deep breaths, being good to yourself and treating yourself with patience.
Glad you’ve found things to enjoy as well.
It’s the inability to derive pleasure from things that indicate that we’re seriously depressed and I’m so glad you are not there at all.
be well Ini
Keep blogging we’re all here for you girl!
xo
round said,
May 5, 2008 @ 8:34 am
Your fruits sound wonderful, Ini. Glad to hear you sounding more upbeat. The heat sounds pretty overwhelming for this time of year - does that foreshadow a hot summer, or is this the hottest season?
Hugs to you
lodyangel said,
May 12, 2008 @ 10:05 am
Hang in there with R. I would do my nest to avoid him at work.
Enjoy the lack of appetite while it lasts!! Pass some of that my way!
soclose said,
May 13, 2008 @ 11:01 am
Been a bit…you OK? I’m hoping you’re just busy.
rubyjean said,
May 16, 2008 @ 8:32 am
Hey Ini, hope all is well with you. I’m sending you warm wishes! RubyJean
anngirl said,
May 17, 2008 @ 2:07 am
Howdy Iniya!
Just wanted to send you love
xoxoxo
islandgrl said,
May 20, 2008 @ 8:04 am
Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you. Hope all is well.
My new blog name is Losin it in Paradise. I changed the old one as someone had the same blog name as mine.
Drop us a line and let us know you are okay.
oxoxo
ellabella said,
May 21, 2008 @ 7:38 pm
Ini, where ARE you, girl? We are missing you and it’s time for you to check in.
Hugs,
Z
anngirl said,
May 22, 2008 @ 1:19 am
Hey girlie -
Just wanted to say hi.
Check in sweets….
miss ya!
xoxoxo
soclose said,
May 23, 2008 @ 2:38 pm
Miss you loads!
anngirl said,
May 25, 2008 @ 9:34 pm
Hey hon -
Hello! Thinkin about you
Be well Iniya!
xo
rubyjean said,
May 26, 2008 @ 11:31 am
Hey Ini, I’m missing you! Let us know how you’re doing, kay?
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