Comments on: Sweating the small stuff http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/ A woman looking for herself Fri, 25 May 2012 00:39:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: anngirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-338 anngirl Sat, 12 Apr 2008 01:46:34 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-338 Hey Iniya! Just wanted to let u know I'm thinking of you girlfriend. Come back when you're ready - know that I'm wishing you the best every minute of every day of your life. Take care of yourself! xo Hey Iniya!

Just wanted to let u know I’m thinking of you girlfriend.

Come back when you’re ready - know that I’m wishing you the best every minute of every day of your life.

Take care of yourself!

xo

]]> By: lodyangel http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-337 lodyangel Wed, 09 Apr 2008 18:00:30 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-337 You are not responsible or that psycho you met online. He obviously was unstable and you did the right thing by cutting him off completely. He was a stlker. I am glad that you came through it okay. I am glad to know that you are smart enough to leave the ones you know you have no future with-alone. I was never that smart! Congrats on the workouts! You are not responsible or that psycho you met online. He obviously was unstable and you did the right thing by cutting him off completely. He was a stlker. I am glad that you came through it okay. I am glad to know that you are smart enough to leave the ones you know you have no future with-alone. I was never that smart!

Congrats on the workouts!

]]> By: ellabella http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-336 ellabella Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:06:13 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-336 Ini, time to check in, girl...we're getting a mite concerned, here. Hugs, Z Ini, time to check in, girl…we’re getting a mite concerned, here.

Hugs,
Z

]]> By: lynard http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-335 lynard Mon, 07 Apr 2008 17:08:18 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-335 Me too...hope all is ok? L Me too…hope all is ok?
L

]]> By: Bobbie http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-334 Bobbie Mon, 07 Apr 2008 03:15:43 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-334 HI Inya Checking in to see how you are doing and how things are going in your part of the world. Hope all is well. Big hugs to you! HI Inya

Checking in to see how you are doing and how things are going in your part of the world. Hope all is well. Big hugs to you!

]]> By: fatnomo http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-333 fatnomo Thu, 03 Apr 2008 13:04:05 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-333 Iniya, I echo the thoughts of the ladies above. I can also tell you that you are fortunate to see the red flags from others, and yourself, and learn from your past rather than stay complacent and have your past become your future. I learned a hard lesson in high school and dated a guy who was strung out on drugs, physically abusive (broke my bones, obsessive, if I can't have you no one will) type of kid - not man. I got pregnant by him and having my son probably saved my life. I left him immediately and he's never met MY son. I endured 2 less than perfect marriages after that and spent the 1st 10 years of my adult life trying to figure out what the helll their problems were. After hubby #2 left (THANK GOD) I realized that I had to look at myself and how I allowed people to affect me. I care about everyone as well, and don't want to hurt feelings, but I figured something out. When I was backed into a corner, or facing making a decision that I really didn't want any part of, or was just trying to be honest without hurting feelings I would say "I love you enough to say no". Essentially meaning I you are important to me and I care enough about our relationship as a whole (mom, sister, son, crazy guy) to tell you that the way this piece is going or the thing you want to hear right now is not what I need to say. And I don't want to appease you because that would be disrespecting you, and possiibly make me resent part of myself or our relationship. It also means that you love yourself enough to say no. To the dangerously tempting situations that swell up emotion, but you know in your gut have an ice cubes chance in Hades of turning out well. I do it with food. I do it with my son, my family, my coworkers. Call it self preservation in tricky times, but to attract the kind of respectful relationships you want, you have to be good for yourself first. Whew... did I just type all that. Anyway, It's intended to be a loving statement, not a selfish out. It's about awareness too. Hope you have a great day! Head up! KC Iniya,
I echo the thoughts of the ladies above. I can also tell you that you are fortunate to see the red flags from others, and yourself, and learn from your past rather than stay complacent and have your past become your future. I learned a hard lesson in high school and dated a guy who was strung out on drugs, physically abusive (broke my bones, obsessive, if I can’t have you no one will) type of kid - not man. I got pregnant by him and having my son probably saved my life. I left him immediately and he’s never met MY son. I endured 2 less than perfect marriages after that and spent the 1st 10 years of my adult life trying to figure out what the helll their problems were. After hubby #2 left (THANK GOD) I realized that I had to look at myself and how I allowed people to affect me. I care about everyone as well, and don’t want to hurt feelings, but I figured something out. When I was backed into a corner, or facing making a decision that I really didn’t want any part of, or was just trying to be honest without hurting feelings I would say “I love you enough to say no”. Essentially meaning I you are important to me and I care enough about our relationship as a whole (mom, sister, son, crazy guy) to tell you that the way this piece is going or the thing you want to hear right now is not what I need to say. And I don’t want to appease you because that would be disrespecting you, and possiibly make me resent part of myself or our relationship.

It also means that you love yourself enough to say no. To the dangerously tempting situations that swell up emotion, but you know in your gut have an ice cubes chance in Hades of turning out well. I do it with food. I do it with my son, my family, my coworkers. Call it self preservation in tricky times, but to attract the kind of respectful relationships you want, you have to be good for yourself first. Whew… did I just type all that. Anyway, It’s intended to be a loving statement, not a selfish out. It’s about awareness too. Hope you have a great day! Head up!

KC

]]> By: lynard http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-332 lynard Mon, 31 Mar 2008 20:14:41 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-332 Well, it's all been said above. That guy was plain weird and obsessive. Good that you finally got rid of him. Keep taking care of yourself. I'll go to the gym too. It feels so much better when you're done. Well, it’s all been said above. That guy was plain weird and obsessive. Good that you finally got rid of him. Keep taking care of yourself. I’ll go to the gym too. It feels so much better when you’re done.

]]> By: Bobbie http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-331 Bobbie Mon, 31 Mar 2008 04:00:17 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-331 Yeah! Inya! I think it is great you are going to the gym. Once you are able, put your treadmill on an incline and you will sweat and feel the workout. It took forever for my shins just to not hurt when I first started. S - keep him as a friend. You are too much for him. : ) I love that you live with your mom. I couldn't do it. I would end up killing her and stuffing her in a closet. I think you have the patience and the insight of a saint. I love that she buys fresh veggies everyday. That is acutally very thoughtful and good for you. Maybe you could wear your Ipod and drown her out once in awhile while you are doing things you don't want to be disturbed. You could say, "Sorry mom, can't hear you". LOL! Hugs to you Bobbie Yeah! Inya! I think it is great you are going to the gym. Once you are able, put your treadmill on an incline and you will sweat and feel the workout. It took forever for my shins just to not hurt when I first started.

S - keep him as a friend. You are too much for him. : )

I love that you live with your mom. I couldn’t do it. I would end up killing her and stuffing her in a closet. I think you have the patience and the insight of a saint. I love that she buys fresh veggies everyday. That is acutally very thoughtful and good for you. Maybe you could wear your Ipod and drown her out once in awhile while you are doing things you don’t want to be disturbed. You could say, “Sorry mom, can’t hear you”. LOL!

Hugs to you

Bobbie

]]> By: Angel http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-330 Angel Sun, 30 Mar 2008 23:42:47 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-330 Good job getting back to the gym, iniya. I agree that it sounds like you were more of a victim in your situation with the creepy email guy than he was. It's weird how seemingly nice guys can turn ino freaks in a relatively short amount of time. Kudos for your strength in getting past that mess! Good job getting back to the gym, iniya.

I agree that it sounds like you were more of a victim in your situation with the creepy email guy than he was. It’s weird how seemingly nice guys can turn ino freaks in a relatively short amount of time. Kudos for your strength in getting past that mess!

]]> By: rubyjean http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-329 rubyjean Sun, 30 Mar 2008 20:33:50 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/30/sweating-the-small-stuff/#comment-329 At least you're working up a sweat! Good for you on going to the gym, and I agree with you and the other ladies that you should probably - no, make that definitely - keep things light with S. It's good that your mom acknowledged that sometimes you need to talk about things. Can you take her by the hands and say, "hey, mom, I know you love me, but I need a little bit of space." You could still go over with her what needs to be done. Believe me honey, do I know what it's like to have a mom hovering behind you in the kitchen asking questions and reminding - when your every last nerve feels raw. But she loves you and you love her, so maybe you really can talk. Well, dear.....I've got the laundry going and hungry people sniffing in the fridge - waiting for the magic hand to give out some fast food. Good idea about the snacks from scratch! Ruby At least you’re working up a sweat! Good for you on going to the gym, and I agree with you and the other ladies that you should probably - no, make that definitely - keep things light with S.
It’s good that your mom acknowledged that sometimes you need to talk about things. Can you take her by the hands and say, “hey, mom, I know you love me, but I need a little bit of space.” You could still go over with her what needs to be done. Believe me honey, do I know what it’s like to have a mom hovering behind you in the kitchen asking questions and reminding - when your every last nerve feels raw. But she loves you and you love her, so maybe you really can talk.
Well, dear…..I’ve got the laundry going and hungry people sniffing in the fridge - waiting for the magic hand to give out some fast food.
Good idea about the snacks from scratch!
Ruby

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