Comments on: Status Update :)

By: round

round — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 14:10:17 +0000

I’m working on getting back on track & stopping by a to see a few old friends to say hi…

Sorry to hear you’ve been struggling recently but glad to see you’re doing better than me. Working from home sounds like a good solution.

I liked the dream post, it was extremely well written and captivating. You have a real gift w writing.

By: anngirl

anngirl — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 02:52:53 +0000

Ms. Iniya - I’m glad the winds of change are heading in your direction. I love the working from home thing and have my fingers crossed that it will happen. Now this means you’ll be with your mom…. but it’s gotta be better than work right? I’m also glad the universe spared you from meeting someone when you’re not at that point in your life right now.

I’m wishing you the best - I know you’ll come out on top

xoxoxo

p.s. glad the meds are working better too

You’re right - for this moment you’re in survival mode - but this will pass soon.

By: rubyjean

rubyjean — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 13:25:53 +0000

Ini, I know how it is to have an old school mother living with you and being a big part of your life. It is very hard to explain how much a part of your life this is, how it shapes you and how impossible it is to change. I know you love your mom, and she adores you, I’m sure. Hang in there, honey. Your brother is a gem, and he has a wicked sense of humour, I see! Working from home will give you the distance and a mental rest from having to gear yourself up every day to face the office, but I hope you plan some little thing that gets you up and out of the house every day. Something only for you, to maintain your sense of self - think of it as a little challenge for each day. I went to a naturopathic doctor last year, hoping to change my life somehow. It didn’t work out as I planned, (and was so expensive). Here’s the distilled version of what I got for my $290: if you cannot exercise every day, follow (at least) this 10/10/10 rule: do 10 sit ups, 10 jumping jacks and 10 push-ups. OY! I think that last one was push ups!
Love,
RubyJean

By: lynard

lynard — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 16:46:07 +0000

Those are my thoughts too. You need some healthy distance from your mother. Can you go and stay with your brother? Is there someone you can go and talk to about all of this? I’m glad that your boss was agreaable to your working from home for now. Please take care of your self.

Lyn

By: soclose

soclose — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 14:51:03 +0000

Oh, Ini, I’m so sorry this happened. If she had respected your wishes (as she SHOULD have) none of this upset would have happened. Can your brother make her see what damage she is doing to you? I know that it’s cultural and she “means well”…….but the lengths she going to!!!! She HAD to know this would not be received well by you. And to accuse you of not “behaving naturally” —-how insulting!!!!! More like she’s mad she can’t manipulate you. It seems that just as soon as you get a bit of balance, someone is only too ready to pull the rug out from under you. Is there any way you can get some distance from her (and some peace); ship her to visit your brother for a few months or something?