Comments on: Emerging http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/ A woman looking for herself Fri, 25 May 2012 00:37:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Bobbie http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-306 Bobbie Mon, 17 Mar 2008 05:48:07 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-306 Hi Inya - My heart hurt for you when I read your post. I am sorry you have to be around R at all. You are right, you can't quit your job without a new one. Loved him too much? Like that is a bad thing? It isn't and don't believe that it is. Love is the most wonderful present that you can give someone and the fact that he is a big fat loser jerk shouldn't take away the value of the feelings you had for him. He truly does not deserve you in his life. Never ever! You are strong for wanting to forgive him and putting him where he belongs - IN THE PAST. Time does heal all wounds. And this one will sting less as the days go by. You are a beautiful person. A smart, loving, loyal, giving, wonderful person. I admire all you have done with your life. I found this quote by Eric Hoffer: The remarkable thing is that we really love our neighbor as ourselves: we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves... Hi Inya - My heart hurt for you when I read your post. I am sorry you have to be around R at all. You are right, you can’t quit your job without a new one.

Loved him too much? Like that is a bad thing? It isn’t and don’t believe that it is. Love is the most wonderful present that you can give someone and the fact that he is a big fat loser jerk shouldn’t take away the value of the feelings you had for him. He truly does not deserve you in his life. Never ever!

You are strong for wanting to forgive him and putting him where he belongs - IN THE PAST. Time does heal all wounds. And this one will sting less as the days go by.

You are a beautiful person. A smart, loving, loyal, giving, wonderful person. I admire all you have done with your life.

I found this quote by Eric Hoffer:
The remarkable thing is that we really love our neighbor as ourselves: we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves…

]]> By: lynard http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-305 lynard Fri, 14 Mar 2008 17:15:22 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-305 Hi Inya, I'll have to see if I can get that book. I like Toni Morrison too. Yes forgiveness is hard, but so necessary sometimes. Have a good weekend. L Hi Inya, I’ll have to see if I can get that book. I like Toni Morrison too. Yes forgiveness is hard, but so necessary sometimes. Have a good weekend.
L

]]> By: anngirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-304 anngirl Fri, 14 Mar 2008 05:58:24 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-304 Good to see you back Iniya! I absolutely ADORE Toni Morrison - Beloved is my favorite book in the whole word. I reread it once a year.... You are fantastic to find it in your heart to forgive the unmentionable one. Maybe that's why it took me so long to get over my ex because I was so angry for many years..... hindsight is always 20/20. Meanwhile, you keep taking extra good care of yourself and making these incredibly sane decisions for your well being. right on sista! xoxo Good to see you back Iniya! I absolutely ADORE Toni Morrison - Beloved is my favorite book in the whole word. I reread it once a year….

You are fantastic to find it in your heart to forgive the unmentionable one. Maybe that’s why it took me so long to get over my ex because I was so angry for many years…..

hindsight is always 20/20.

Meanwhile, you keep taking extra good care of yourself and making these incredibly sane decisions for your well being.

right on sista!

xoxo

]]> By: ellabella http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-303 ellabella Thu, 13 Mar 2008 12:45:37 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-303 LOL! Ms Close is SO much like me! I am simply not the "forgive and forget" type. Especially if you do something to somebody I care about. I vote to throw R right under the nearest bus! (Him and my ex). There's a curse I heard somewhere that I can't remember for the life of me, but it's something about camels and fleas. Some are just so deserving. I know. I know. When you don't forgive someone, YOU are the one who carries that burden around. I know all that. I think of it, though as a reasonable substitute for ankle & wrist weights. So long as I carry it, every walk from my desk to the bubbler is for exercise purposes, no? I like to think of it as productive and positive. And think of all the muscles you could use beating that rotter with a baseball bat! Ooops. Sorry. OMMMMMMMMMMMMMM. I shall soon be peaceful and calm yet again... LOL! Ms Close is SO much like me! I am simply not the “forgive and forget” type. Especially if you do something to somebody I care about. I vote to throw R right under the nearest bus! (Him and my ex). There’s a curse I heard somewhere that I can’t remember for the life of me, but it’s something about camels and fleas. Some are just so deserving. I know. I know. When you don’t forgive someone, YOU are the one who carries that burden around. I know all that. I think of it, though as a reasonable substitute for ankle & wrist weights. So long as I carry it, every walk from my desk to the bubbler is for exercise purposes, no? I like to think of it as productive and positive. And think of all the muscles you could use beating that rotter with a baseball bat! Ooops. Sorry. OMMMMMMMMMMMMMM. I shall soon be peaceful and calm yet again…

]]> By: soclose http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-302 soclose Thu, 13 Mar 2008 12:25:14 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-302 Yep--feeling stronger is good!!!! Although I'm more of a revenge plotter than a forgiver, I have heard it's good for you. Sometimes I just kind of "let go" of something but I NEVER forget. Sorry, this is probably not the best healthiest current mental advice but keeps me from making the same mistake twice and keeps me on guard around the offender. Yes, this takes energy but they never "get me" twice. Of course, if I can totally cut out the person, that is the way I go. Getting in touch with old friends sometimes rekindles great fun; keep us posted. Yep–feeling stronger is good!!!! Although I’m more of a revenge plotter than a forgiver, I have heard it’s good for you. Sometimes I just kind of “let go” of something but I NEVER forget. Sorry, this is probably not the best healthiest current mental advice but keeps me from making the same mistake twice and keeps me on guard around the offender. Yes, this takes energy but they never “get me” twice. Of course, if I can totally cut out the person, that is the way I go.

Getting in touch with old friends sometimes rekindles great fun; keep us posted.

]]> By: rubyjean http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-301 rubyjean Wed, 12 Mar 2008 11:58:09 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/03/12/emerging/#comment-301 Great post. You ARE emerging, and you will be even more beautiful. I am participating in a discussion group at the moment, and our topic, our book, is about forgiveness. Big subject - and what you wrote about how staying angry with R. makes you feel ill and exhausts you resonates....that's one of the things we've been really looking at - how forgiveness heals. I am learning this lesson in my own way, too. Take care lovely lady.... RubyJean Great post. You ARE emerging, and you will be even more beautiful.
I am participating in a discussion group at the moment, and our topic, our book, is about forgiveness. Big subject - and what you wrote about how staying angry with R. makes you feel ill and exhausts you resonates….that’s one of the things we’ve been really looking at - how forgiveness heals. I am learning this lesson in my own way, too.
Take care lovely lady….
RubyJean

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