Comments on: Okay sort of a day! http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/ A woman looking for herself Fri, 25 May 2012 00:28:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: fatasianchick http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-232 fatasianchick Fri, 25 Jan 2008 05:35:32 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-232 Saying no is really hard sometimes. Knowing your limits and letting other people know what they are is really important. Just remember that you have to take care of yourself first. *Hugs* Saying no is really hard sometimes. Knowing your limits and letting other people know what they are is really important. Just remember that you have to take care of yourself first. *Hugs*

]]> By: round http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-231 round Thu, 24 Jan 2008 23:10:17 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-231 It's really important to learn to say no effectively - polite but firm, explaining that you're clear on priorities and that you work hard enough already. I've been in your shoes many a time... I've found that if I use the words "need to avoid burnout" it helps. Plus being firm and resolute. It helps if you can offer up another person who you think could do the job, too... On the personal front, sometimes you write things that make me think we were soul sisters at some time in our past... I used to be consumed with guilt over all the "SHOULDS" in my life. I should exercise more, I should eat better, I should get my hair colored, a facial, use face cream, use hand cream, bleach my teeth, get a waxing, mediate, call my friends more, respond faster to personal emails, etc etc. It was awful because not only was I constantly focusing on what I DID NOT DO, I also didn't appreciate what did do. Nor did I appreciate the relaxation of doing NOTHING. I'm not 100% cured of my perfectionism and overly-busy expectations, but I'm much further along. Did I ever share with you the saying that graced the wall in my office just above my computer monitor for about 6 years? "Sometimes Good Enough is Good Enough" that got me through many a stress-fest.... It’s really important to learn to say no effectively - polite but firm, explaining that you’re clear on priorities and that you work hard enough already. I’ve been in your shoes many a time… I’ve found that if I use the words “need to avoid burnout” it helps. Plus being firm and resolute. It helps if you can offer up another person who you think could do the job, too…

On the personal front, sometimes you write things that make me think we were soul sisters at some time in our past… I used to be consumed with guilt over all the “SHOULDS” in my life. I should exercise more, I should eat better, I should get my hair colored, a facial, use face cream, use hand cream, bleach my teeth, get a waxing, mediate, call my friends more, respond faster to personal emails, etc etc. It was awful because not only was I constantly focusing on what I DID NOT DO, I also didn’t appreciate what did do. Nor did I appreciate the relaxation of doing NOTHING. I’m not 100% cured of my perfectionism and overly-busy expectations, but I’m much further along.

Did I ever share with you the saying that graced the wall in my office just above my computer monitor for about 6 years? “Sometimes Good Enough is Good Enough”

that got me through many a stress-fest….

]]> By: soclose http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-230 soclose Thu, 24 Jan 2008 14:09:22 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-230 Learning to say 'no' especially at work or to friends is an important skill. Stick to your guns!! Learning to say ‘no’ especially at work or to friends is an important skill. Stick to your guns!!

]]> By: islandgrl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-229 islandgrl Thu, 24 Jan 2008 12:47:14 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-229 I love to read. I cannot stand to have a day go by that I don't pick up a book to read. I love to read. I cannot stand to have a day go by that I don’t pick up a book to read.

]]> By: yogaforchocolate http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-228 yogaforchocolate Thu, 24 Jan 2008 10:58:22 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/iniya/2008/01/24/okay-sort-of-a-day/#comment-228 Good on you for planning to get out the list, and show that person you CANNOT possibly do all of those things at once. Don't be pressured ot do anything you don't have time to do, there's no point feeling guilty, they just have to give the newsletter to someone else! Keep looking after yourself. ((hugs)) Good on you for planning to get out the list, and show that person you CANNOT possibly do all of those things at once. Don’t be pressured ot do anything you don’t have time to do, there’s no point feeling guilty, they just have to give the newsletter to someone else!

Keep looking after yourself. ((hugs))

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