Some year end thinking
Well, I did go to gym today. After a whole week of break. Did not do full work out. Just 45 mins of cardio. But at least I got started again. Hope I won’t strat bunking again and stay afloat with my plans. I am slowly making progress with the list of my pending chores and that is making me feel much better.
My plan is not to set any goals right now. I need smaller goals of staying normal for a day at a time and then a week at a time. After that I would again start on exercise goals. Generally I am planning to work harder, work out harder, eat cleaner, reduce clutter and stay positive.
I think my mom is again gearing up for another round of making me meet guys. I think I will be able to afloat this time. I won’t get involved much. Though I agree with Ruby, if I am going to do it, better to do it wholeheartedly. So will try to stay sane, not take unnecessary stress, not get angry with mom. I feel I will do better.
I got quite a few movies to watch yesterday and day before. Somehow didn’t work out. I liked “Devil wears Prada” a little bit, “the making of an american quilt” a little better. Couldn’t finish “the color of money”. Somehow got irritated. And got very scared after watching half hour of “the things you can see by looking at them” and didn’t watch any more. I am yet to shrug off the depression. But getting there. It’s not like me to give up on a movie!!
Anyways, that is about it. I too am planning to check out the book suggetsed by round. I have never been much good in planning and working per plan. I have almost always gone with the flow. Maybe I could change a little.
Love and good thougts for all of you.
round said,
December 27, 2007 @ 5:26 am
Very good job getting to the gym. It doesnt matter if you didn’t do everything - just getting there again is the first step!
I used to always finish books and movies but in the past few years I’ve gotten a different attitude. If it’s bad I feel like I’m wasting my time to continue. I got rid of TV as a first step - I wanted only entertainment choices that I actively chose, no passive sitting on the couch whatever-is-on for me. Going TV-free was so liberating, and gave me so much more time! We do have a DVD player & projector, so movies are still game, and we watch 2-3 a week, most nights we read.
round said,
December 27, 2007 @ 5:36 am
I also wanted to say something about another round of meeting men. I’m not clear from your posts what is your own attitude towards finding a husband. I know your mother wants if for you, but is it a top objective of your own? I know in your culture being a single independent girl is viewed differently than in the US & Europe.
If you want this for yourself, I recommend you approach it a bit like a numbers game - the right guy is out there, but hard to find amidst all the jungle of not-so-great guys. The problem is on the surface they all look okay and they all look seriously flawed. It’s only by spending some time with them that you’ll be able to identify the ones worth keeping from the others, so each date “counts”.
When I decided to look for love this was my approach : To find the right guy you might have to meet 100, or more. Okay, well, I’ll start with a smaller number, let’s say meet 20 people this year.
Next, how will I know it’s worth pursuing? Time. So I need to give the guys a chance. Objective : at least 2 dates with most of the guys. Afterwards I can cut them loose, but I need to feel I gave a real effort. (I broke this rule for a few when on the first date it was clear there was NO WAY). But there were one or two others who I liked better after a few dates than I had on the first meeting.
Somewhere in the middle of this process I met my DH. I was casually dating one other guy and had another date with another new guy on my agenda when I met my DH. I broke the date w the new guy, and saw the “other” once between my first and second dates w my DH. After the second date w DH I was hooked, and never went out w anyone else again, way before we ever discussed it. It clicked right away when it was the right person.
I do think to find love we need to make an effort, and push outside our comfort zone.