So now what?

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Don’t you just hate stress and drama?  Sometimes it’s hard to focus on yourself and what you need instead of trying to “feed” the aggravation or emotional pain.  It gets to most people that I know and for sure it gets me.  Life was never guaranteed to be easy. Things aren’t always going to work out how we want them to either.  Compacted by weight issues and possible health concerns makes it that much harder on our bodies when we stress eat (when I stress eat).  

 

So what do you do? Really. What do you do when faced with stressful situations that lead you into a spiral or in the edge of nutritional failure? Do you exercise and what kind of exercise do you prefer? Do you vent to friends? Do you write?  For me writing makes it real.  I can write it out and talk to myself, and anyone else that wants to read what I write and possibly relate.  In this whole wide world, if I am feeling weak or strong, I am the only one that is always going to be there for myself with God right beside me.  It’s a hard concept to have to be your own support system. Again, I like the comparison of the oxygen mask dropping down in the plane. The main point is that you have to take care of yourself before helping others.  You cannot always rely on others to help you in your time of need so you have to learn to be your strongest support.

 

For me I have come a long way and gone through many changes the last couple of years physically, emotionally and mentally.  There are those that have “issues” with my weight loss success, having lost friends over it and I seem to be experiencing more negative attitudes, or jealousy, now. I have worked hard on myself and have value.  I am worthy. It bothers me that there are those that have that animosity towards me, assumingly because of my weight-loss, possibly because of my confidence level that has sky-rocketed compared to where it used to be. My attitude and outlook is to be joyful and celebrate others’ good fortune thus I would like to think that I would show that to my friends, family and loved ones in such cases.

 

So now what? The “newness” has worn off of that initial shock I experience when people see me and when I meet new people they have no idea what my journey or weight loss experience has been.  A new friend mentioned that after losing a lot of weight that she’s just like everyone else walking down the street that there’s nothing to make her different now.  That’s an interesting perspective but now I get it.  At this point for me it’s still quite unbelievable that I’ve accomplished the “impossible” by losing 170 pounds.  I don’t feel out of place any more or as if I draw any attention to me for being “different”, even though being overweight is becoming the norm. 

 

Fortunately I don’t see myself as still big.  I know some individuals that lose weight have self-image issues based on what they looked like before losing weight and that they see themselves as being that way even afterwards. I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror for decades so I would try not to look, or see, the reflection. Perhaps that has helped me as a way for self-preservation.  I thank God that I don’t have that concern on top of all my others.  Also, things in my life work out better when I can relinquish the control that I want to have and give my concerns to God to deal with instead of trying to handle situations, worries, stresses, etc.

 

It is hard to maintain a weight loss, I would expect of any amount, especially of so much.  After having “yo-yo” dieted for so long it’s difficult to not slip back into habits that have been broken.  When you go “on” a diet it implies that at some point that you can get “off” or “stop” your diet.  I have learned that it is a way of life and that I will always try my best to eat nutritionally for my health and longevity.  I have two beautiful daughters that I pray to see mature into wonderful woman, wives and mothers eventually, not to mention wanting to try to be an example for them to want to emulate.  I can’t let the stresses of today determine who I am today or effect my health for years to come.  Everything happens for a reason.  A verse in a poem I wrote years ago says: He may answer quick, He may answer slow, but He promises to answer yes or no.  Today I give my worries to God.  I am Doing it for Me.

I woke up SKINNY!

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There are not words to express the appreciation and elation in my life right now.  I never would have imagined life to be the way it is today.  When I walked into Metabolic Research Center in Murfreesboro, TN on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2011 I had to do it for me - thus the title of my blog.  I needed to learn to love myself.  Now what I realize is that not only have I learned to love myself, but that my self-worth, self-esteem, and value have grown exponentially.  More importantly my relationship with God has strengthened.  He’s always been beside me, yet I haven’t always been in the right direction.  When I try to be in control it doesn’t work.  When I give it all to God to handle there is a peace I have that’s unexplainable. 

I wanted to try to write everything down to this point so I have a record of it all.  It’s still all so surreal and the most humbling experience.  Now it is an honor to share my experiences with others to encourage good health.

The way things have gone to date:

30 years overweight to morbidly obese

Joined TOPS October 2005 – continued to yo-yo diet

Joined MRC February 14, 2011

Made the remark to friend after 2012 New Year’s – no resolution – “The Sky is the Limit!!” (Had NO clue how true that statement would wind up to be!)

May 2012 TOPS won TN State Division 1 (over 300 pounds) First Place - Memphis, TN

May 2012 – Found Arm Girdles!! Huge ego boost, had been girdling my stomach and legs excess skin for some time

July 2012 TOPS won International Division 1 First Place – San Diego, Ca – incredible opportunity to share my story and be an encouragement to others

Visited Hollywood Blvd with family on trip to California

October 2012 Visited a plastic surgeon – too expensive for corrective procedure – insure won’t cover

October 2012 Wrote to TOPS President Barb Cady to encourage TOPS to work with legislation for insurance to cover procedures with specific stipulations and requirements met, response after discussed at board meeting was it was too big for them to tackle

October 2012 – TOPS – received Century Award – a beautiful pendant necklace in honor of losing 100 pounds and keeping it off for 52 consecutive weeks or longer (VERY emotional – amazing honor for accomplishment)

December 2012 Submitted story to The Doctors TV show

December 2012 Contacted by The Doctors – interested in my story – supplied lots of information and pictures

December 2012 Reached weight loss goal via TOPS! Became a KOPS!!

February 2013 Was flown, alone, to Los Angeles, Ca with drivers, hotel, etc. to shoot my back story and appear on the episode SKIN: Feed It, Fix It, Tuck It – as THE guest for the Tuck It segment – was generously offered Dr. Ordon’s professional assistance to remove stomach and arm skin

Stayed at the Loew’s Hollywood – where God had allowed me to be months before so I would have the confidence to be there all by myself – even ate a few meals ALONE!!  (Huge accomplishment for me) Had a free day where I saw a taping of The Price is Right and Extra – with Mario Lopez interviewing Mark Wahlburg and Sean Combs! WALKED back to hotel about 4 miles because I could, physically and mentally.

March 2013 Interviewed for the Daily News Journal at Metabolic Research Center – huge article in Business Section

March 2013 Interviewed by Tennessee State University (employer) with story published on their web page, Facebook, etc.

March 2013 Interviewed by The Murfreesboro Post – appeared on the FRONT page with great article inside

March 2013 Interviewed by The Daily Corinthian – appeared on the FRONT page with story

March 2013 Interviewed by Channel 2 News which aired several times over a couple days

March 20, 2013 The Doctors episode aired – watched with friends (Available on the website www.thedoctorstv.com – search for the title of episode above to watch 2 clips)

April 2013 – TOPS was crowned TN State Queen (Their records, lost a few pounds not recorded, 163.75 pounds) -   also participated in the Before and After Parade, recognized as a Century Award recipient, graduated as KOPS, started the Circle of Light with the TOPS TN State King

May 2013 – Started a Facebook Group that turned to a Facebook page to stay accountable for everything I eat, share recipes with pictures sometimes, encourage healthy eating and self worth, trying to help and make a difference, bring awareness to healthy living  www.facebook.com/heathersheatlhyhabitsdoingitforme

June 2013 – Interviewed by The Independent Appeal – appeared on the Front Page with story

July 4, 2013 – Was in TWO parades in a convertible!

July 2013 – Attended TOPS International Recognition Days in Calgary, Alberta, Canada as TN State Queen – also participated in the Before and After Parade, recognized as a Century Award recipient (cried as “The Climb” was sung to all recipients) and participated in my first International Circle of Light

July 29, 2013 – Returned to Los Angeles, California and drove with friend to Rancho Mirage

July 30, 2013 – Consultation with Dr. Drew Ordon and Dr. Ritu Chopra at The Plastic Surgery Institute

July 31, 2013 – Life changing, figure altering, corrective surgery, to remove excess skin: panniculectomy – removal of stomach tissue and correction of two hernias AND bilateral brachioplasty – removal of upper arm skin and excess under armpit and down side

Many asked me prior to the surgery about being scared or nervous.  I truly had given it to God for a calm and peace through the process of filming, photos and after-care.  I woke up skinny!  How many times have I wished I could wake up skinny? It finally worked, after I put in a lot of work on myself. I felt like I had been in a magic show and my middle had been removed.  J

August 1-13, 2013 – Recover at Rancho Las Palmas Resort, with assistance from nurse Shirley a few days and my friend Trish – not really any pain, just discomfort and mobility restriction which have lead to sleep deprivation – “It’s temporary”

Encased in compression belt over stomach and hip area and in compression vest from wrist to hip

Through discussion with others having had similar procedures the biggest complaint was the compression wear.  God has prepared me through constricting the excess skin from bouncing around by girdling which also prevented rashes and back pain. The compression wear is not uncomfortable – it’s a huge hug from God.

August 14, 2013 – Return to Tn to continue to recover

August 17, 2013 – First public appearance at a local TOPS function where I was able to speak

August 21, 2013 – Check up at family doctor to be able to return to work on Monday, August 26, 2013

September – November – TOPS Speaking engagements across the state of TN at functions, maybe more at the Chapter level

Date TBD – Future return to Los Angeles, Ca - appearance for the big “Reveal” on an upcoming episode of The Doctors (until then…. I must avoid having my picture taken where my body, the results, can be seen)

 

 

Well, there you have it.  There might be something I missed.  It’s hard to believe the way things have all worked out just from losing weight.  I couldn’t have done it without God guiding me and giving me the strength to stay focused, fight temptations and go all the way.  This is it!  It’s still a daily battle and I expect health and nutrition to always be my focus.  When asked what was the hardest part I still will say-today.  I’ve never been a “normal” sized adult.  It seems to have been easier to lose the weight than it is to maintain within a few pounds.  I am Doing it for ME!

 

What does your future hold from making continuous healthy choices for your body, losing weight if necessary? Share your story with others.  It’s a great feeling to have someone tell you that You are their inspiration.

 

The Reflection Revisited

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I have much to catch up on as time allows but had this come to me this morning so I had to share. Much love for you, but love yourself even more!

The Reflection Revisited
Months have passed by
In the new form of me
I’m literally half the person
That I used to be.
I feel twice as tall
With my head held high
Though lowly and more humbled
As each day passes by.
It matters not how long
The journey took to complete
To lose the excess weight
And finally succeed.
Now with graciousness
And tear filled eyes
I can feel and see the benefits
And have received the prize!
I have learned to love me
Like never before
I have put myself first
There’s a new world to explore!
It’s not selfish or conceited
To put yourself first
Besides God you’re the most
Important one on this earth.
Heaven awaits you
But only you have the key
Your body and health is your temple
Your responsibly.
If you take care of yourself
From the inside to out
Everything else falls in place
Without a doubt.
Your life was set in motion
Many years ago
God has a plan for everyone
That we know.
What’s yours? What’s mine?
Are we to ever know?
Take charge of your destiny
And let your light show.
Does it really matter in the scheme of all things
What others think of you?
I once believed and know better now
That My love for myself is what’s true.
You can’t take care of others
If you’re not taking care of you
Lead by example
Don’t do what others do.
Be the exception
Make your rules matter most
Life for yourself
For God, for Jesus, and the Holy Ghost!

Another chapter of my life is about to begin….

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What a blessing it is to be alive today.  I was so very fortunate to not have any severe health scare to finally “make” me wise up to lose weight.  At my maximum recorded weight I tipped the scales at 367.5 pounds.  I won’t do all the comparisons of weight but that’s a lot of sticks of butter!  It’s also about 45 gallons of milk!  Wow!  That brings it into perspective.  I have lost 170 pounds – over 21 gallons of that milk is GONE!! 

So today, here I am two days away from the flying to California for what will surely be a life changing experience.  Since I have lost weight it seems that there are numerous things that I notice, countless events that have altered my life, my views and my beliefs.  I see differently now with an open mind and deep appreciation.  My relationship with God has been increased beyond measure.  My relationship with myself has changed to where I really like ME now.  I am comfortable with who I am and the person that I’ve become.  Excess weight and now excess skin, does not make me the person that I am but has made my attitude and outlook different for sure.  After unsuccessfully attempting to lose weight more times than I can even tally, I have found victory in “Doing it for ME!”  I have put myself first and foremost which I never did before.  It sounds selfish but it’s not.  By focusing on my health – mental, physical and emotional, my value and worth have improved tremendously, in turn, my family is better off because I am obviously more capable to do things with them and have increased my life expectancy by years if not decades.

Monday with my traveling companion, Trish Marshall, we will get to Los Angeles, California and meander to Rancho Mirage to settle into our home away from home for over 2 weeks.  On Tuesday I will have a consultation with Dr. Andrew Ordon.  (If you don’t already know a quick update: I sent my story into The Doctors; they contacted me and after numerous emails, calls, pictures, and details, I appeared on an episode “Skin: Feed It, Fix It, Tuck It” where I was the feature guest on the “Tuck It” segment; I was generously offered his service for corrective surgery to remove excess skin.) Wednesday, July 31, 2013 I will have corrective surgery.  It is corrective, not cosmetic.  The excess skin is as mentally debilitating as the excess weight was physically debilitating. It’s not for vanity but for functionality. 

Today as I was getting dressed I was more aware of my routine, thinking about not having to do this anymore.  I have done this for so long it’s just habit now.  First off when I take a shower my arms flop and sway as I’m washing my hair – that will be “fixed”.  Then I have to lift the excess skin on my stomach to be able to get clean – that will be “fixed” too.  Trivial maybe to others, but it will be life changing for my daily routine and hard to even imagine not having those problems hanging around any longer.  Back to my routine, so you can get an idea of my layers and tucking – hiding of the truth if I dare say.  Panties are an obvious.  They are put on after powdering under my flap/apron of skin.  Next I will put a little powder in my hands and rub my upper arms.  I will then put on what I refer to as my sleeves.  This wonderful invention has changed my life and my self confidence by constricting the excess skin on my arms into a more firm, fit, contoured shape. I will then pull up the bra and adjust my breasts to look as “normal” as I can.  After my arms and breasts are neatly tucked away, I can then step into my waist high girdle.  This is pulled up to meet my bra.  Then I adjust the skin on my stomach and legs of the girdle that go down mid-thigh.  Next I put on a tight fitting tank top and adjust the excess skin under my armpits, on my sides, to be more contoured to not show under clothes with the sides of my bra and the tank.  Finally I can get dressed. Whew…… this is not an easy task but makes me more mentally capable to face the world, if even at home. 

The reality comes back, no matter how I look and my self-confidence level, every time that I have to use the restroom.  I have to tuck, shove and adjust my stomach back into hiding.  At bedtime I am continually reminded of my past as the layers come off one by one.  The truth comes back, maybe not to everyone else but to me.  No one ever warned me of the remnants that would be left after losing a lot of weight.  It’s disheartening to think about all the others out there that are living with the excess skin condition I have, much less if it’s worse than or not as bad as mine.  I know that the girdling is giving me a false self-confidence to get through the day but it has prevented rashes and back pain that I have heard come with the weight of the skin “hanging” around and shaking about during the day. 

I wanted to share my experience as my story, my journey, is an open book.  If my situations can be of assistance, guidance, encouragement or inspiration to others I feel humbled to be the vessel to do so, a way that I can give back and pay it forward.  I completely give God the credit for getting me to this point and beyond.  Truly I am holding on for the ride not knowing where this will take me.  Another chapter of my life is about to begin…. 

What chapter are you on?  Are you living your life for God?  Are you making excuses for not eating right and treating your body like God has intended for us to be able to serve him?  To serve others?  It took me “weigh” too long to figure it out and I am appreciative for the opportunities that have happened and those that are before me.  Don’t “weight” too long to figure out that you control your own weight.  No one else is feeding you.  Only you have the ability to make the changes that are beneficial for your body.  Love yourself.  YOU are Worthy!  I have been, and will continue to be “Doing it for ME!”

 

I have changed my life

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I’m at the Nashville airport getting ready, well waiting, to start an adventure of a lifetime.  I seem to be quite leased lately with several of those and more yet to be.  It is so very humbling to have all these amazing opportunities for finally learning to care about myself.  The past few months have been incredible and such a blessing to have succeeded to lose almost half of myself.  It’s a joy to try to encourage and inspire others to do the same through different venues, Facebook, Twitter, etc.

Now I have a Facebook page www.facebook.com/heathershealthyhabitsdoingitforme where I post my menu, or food journal, for the day.  I have had some good response yet truly hate to have to be absent for this week.  I will Ty my best to stay focused and eat correctly.  In two weeks I’ll be flying out to California for Dr. Ordon to perform surgery to remove excess skin.  I can’t think about it too much.  I have handed it over to God. I have so many other things to be concerned about before I fly, surgery etc. I can’t get too worried or dwell on negative possibilities. I am staying positive and letting God’s plan for me to be revealed daily.
I have changed my life, as only I am capable of doing.  The ”pay-offs” are enough to make me cry in humility.  I wish I cold bottle p self-value and self-worth for all those that are struggling with weight and other addictions.  Only you can change your life.
I am doing it for ME!

NO EXCUSES!

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If you haven’t figured this out about me I love to write.  In response, or study about the term being “excused” I wanted to share some thoughts. For those that aren’t familiar with the term - as a member of TOPS when you have to miss a weigh-in/meeting your chart is marked “excused.”  I evaluate and look at things differently now when it comes to weight loss and keeping off pounds sensibly.  Therefore I will share some observations from the side of success that are only intended to bring awareness and thought to my health and yours on the topic of being “excused”.

To be “excused” doesn’t necessarily mean that we are “excused” from being accountable for our actions when it comes to the nutrients which we put in our bodies and the physical level that we choose to participate in.  There are reasons that we make the choices that we make. There are temptations that are put before us daily that sometimes we give in to for whatever the situation.  There are regrets for choices perhaps, but should we be “excused”? NO!
When it comes to our health and well-being there are NO EXCUSES!  There are choices and there are results of those choices.  Consequences for our own actions. No one physically makes us do anything that we don’t want to do, or that we don’t “let” them direct us into doing.
Making the right choices for our bodies is not always an easy thing to do but it is our choices that WE have to live with. There is no “excuse” worth more than MY personal well-being, physically and mentally.  Edgar Guest’s poem Myself is one that I chose to pen in calligraphy in high school.  It says no much.
Myself
I have to live with myself, and so,
I want to be fit for myself to know;
I want to be able as days go by,
Always to look myself straight in the eye;
I don’t want to stand with the setting sun
And hate myself for the things I’ve done.
I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf
A lot of secrets about myself,
And fool myself as I come and go
Into thinking that nobody else will know
The kind of man I really am;
I don’t want to dress myself up in sham.
I want to go out with my head erect,
I want to deserve all men’s respect;
But here in this struggle for fame and pelf,
I want to be able to like myself.
I don’t want to think as I come and go
That I’m bluster and bluff and empty show.
I never can hide myself from me,
I see what others may never see,
I know what others may never know,
I never can fool myself- and so,
Whatever happens, I want to be
Self-respecting and conscience free.
Have a blessed day.  Take care of yourself.  NO EXCUSES!  Only YOU can make the choices for your body.  I am doing it for ME!

YOU have to put YOU first above all

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I hope as you are reading this that you are doing well.  You have come to this site for help, for encouragement, for truth and for guidance towards a healthier life-style.  I pray that my words, my journey and experiences will relate to you somehow that you too can find success in reaching your goals towards a healthier you.

My experience has been lifelong.  Literally, I have been overweight to varying degrees for over 30 years.  A couple of years ago it finally sunk in and I have been dedicating my time and efforts to making my body healthy-inside and out.  Physically I am more capable after losing 170 pounds, without surgical intervention.  Mentally I am in a place that is still new to me.  I have become a person that is more confident,  outgoing and enthusiastic.  I am more positive now and have WORTH.  I suppose I was worthy before but never acknowledges that.  Now I now that I have value, if from no one else, from myself!
What I wanted to share with you is a link to my new Facebook page.  I am posting daily what I am eating. If it turns out good, which most of usually is taste-wise anyways, I will include pictures and even recipes!  This is a great way for me to stay accountable, not just to others that possibly could be enlightened by something that I post, but to myself.  Ultimately, I am who matters.  Does that sound selfish? I guess it does but to find that value in myself has lead me to reach goals, after learning from numerous past attempts. Now I am focused to stay where I need to be within a reasonable range.
www.facebook.com/heathershealthyhabitsdoingitforme
YOU have to put YOU first above all.  It took me so very long to figure that out.  I wish I could bottle up the confidence but since I can’t all I can do is try my best to share my experiences with you and give you the hope that your excess pounds can be shed, that you can be healthy, that you can feel better about yourself and that YOU are the only one that can make the changes that possibly need to be made.  No one put food in my mouth-I did.  No one can make me get up and move-only I can. No one can make you feel better about myself- only I can. The drive really does come from within.  You read about it and hear about it but something really does seem to “click”.
I am so very blessed and humbled by what experiences are forthcoming.  As the TOPS TN State Queen, I will be in a parade for the 4th of July!   Then I will be heading to represent TN at the TOPS IRD, International Recognition Days, in Calgary, Alberta, Canada.  I will be going across the stage several times and must be dressed in formals.   It’s pretty neat how friends are able to loan me dresses, etc. for events-that I can wear other people’s clothes.  Upon returning home I will be heading back to California a week later (rescheduled again) to have a consultation with Dr. Ordon on July 30th and the corrective skin removal procedure on the 31st.  God has been carrying me through all of this and I trust that He’s in control.  I am at peace completely. It’s a great feeling.  I didn’t quite expect to build my relationship with God so strong.  Truly when I try to take control things just get all mixed up and go wrong.  Then something seems to happen, like a swift kick in the derrière, to make me jump back up on his shoulders to carry me through everything.
I am doing it for ME!

Get up, brush off and move on!

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No matter what personal issues are going on in my life I seek to find the strength, through fervent prayer, to stay positive and go forward.  Looking back doesn’t do a lot of good mentally and it sure won’t change what history has been made. Get up, brush off and move on!  I have to push through and go on - for me.  I don’t mean to sound selfish but life isn’t easy.  Life hasn’t been full of happiness and butterflies to this point but it’s my choice to find it from this day forward.  No one else can do it for me - but me.  It’s hard to evaluate your life in terms of comparing how you would treat/feed others or even a pet.  Sometimes it’s easier to punish our bodies through bad choices but would we try to instill or force those same habits or actions on another?  Unlikely. 

There have been countless changes in me physically with losing a lot of weight that are visible to the world but on a personal level - wow!  I never used to really look in the mirror because I didn’t like what I saw on the outside, knowing all along there was a valuable worthy person trapped inside.  Now I have been allowed, blessed, given, this amazing opportunity to use my story to try to encourage and help others.  The thing I’m learning now is that it’s not about the physical form as much as it’s been about my personal growth and faith.  If someone doesn’t like the “new” me, that isn’t my problem.  Does it hurt YES!  Does it hurt enough to punish my body with overeating or dwelling on issues? NO!  Giving it ALL to GOD gives me a calm peace that’s quite hard to explain.  I am so appreciative of having been given another day to reach out to you, anyone, that needs some encouragement to fight whatever health condition and life circumstances that you are facing.  We all have a purpose.  We all are here for a reason.  Even when we feel alone we never are.  Reach out and GOD is there to hold your hand, to hear your prayers and pleas, to be a friend when no one else seems to be.

I am a much more confident, viable, worthy person than I thought I was 2 1/2 years ago and previously. Beyond and against some peoples wishes - I have done this for me and will continue to do so, regardless.  The sky is the limit and the best is yet to come.

The PAST is your lesson.

The PRESENT is your gift.

The FUTURE is your motivation.

A five mile talk with God

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Well today I got some news that was really quite crushing.  Actually the email came last night but I didn’t have the opportunity to check it till this afternoon. My surgery, again, is postponed and will have to be rescheduled.  I am a believer that everything happens for a reason.  I have been very upset today trying to figure out the circumstance. It will all be okay some how, some way, some day.  I really want to be rational and keep positive about the situation. Something that was weird, especially for me, was that all I wanted to do was to go walking.  It wasn’t possible at the time.

My 5 mile talk with God today was good when i got. Home.  I probably was certifiable if someone had been around.  I talked out loud as I walked a couple miles. Lots of things going through my mind evaluating my life from different points of views and praying earnestly about lots of aspects. Did anything get resolved? I am more at peace. Yes I am still upset to a point but trying my best to put it in God’s hands to deal with.  It’s hard to do-give your problems to God.
I am so humbled by the fact that I have lost an insane amount of weight and have been chosen for such an incredible opportunity. I give the credit to God completely, still in amazement and shock myself really, especially when I look in a mirror. There is a reason for everything though we might not ever know why. I am trapped in this body sagging with skin.  Emotionally it is so tormenting. Physically it is uncomfortable having to tuck and shove into a constricted form daily.  Tomorrow is a new day, and yet another day closer to starting to live in a new body. When that day will be is yet to be determined for good reasons I’m sure.
Time for me to practice the self-talking that I have somehow stopped. Time for me to show others by example that  you can overcome problems and not turn to food, maybe even exercise instead?! Time for me to be, or become, a strong woman to be an example to my daughters.  Time for me to realize and practice my own motto-that I am worth it and that I am Doing it for me. Time for me to ultimately give it all to God.

Be more aware of the body-effect that the food will provide.

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I responded on my FB page about my senior picture that i posted. A friend complimented me that I look better now. My response….

I am smaller now than when in high school. Pretty crazy it took me 30+ years to do it. I really put my body through a lot, emotionally and physically.  The torment, etc of growing up over weight is just horrible.  I truly wouldn’t wish it on anyone: being left out, not having invites, being uncomfortable in desks, not being able to wear the “in” clothes…. The list could go on and on.  Now when I see a child overweight I want to just talk to them and tell them to do it while they are young to not miss out on life and opportunities.  I am so thankful to have a second chance and a new beginning, ready to face the world and not hide away.

Now it makes me sad, so very sad, to reflect on my missed years of life and living that was restricted by the permanent “fat suit” that I wore.  It was my shield and protector at the time.  I hid behind, or in there, but who or why was I hiding? I don’t know and at this point it doesn’t really matter because it can’t be changed.  The youth of today have even more struggles than I did I think, not with just the social aspect of the results of being heavy but the temptations available and put in front of them/us today.

Its better late than never!

It isn’t fair that I don’t get to eat what everyone else eats. Does it make me mad? Absolutely! Did I use to eat all that “stuff”? Well… absolutely.  Did it produce an outcome, or shall we say side-effect, or even better a body-effect, that I didn’t want? Again I say… Absolutely!  Externally everyone could see what was going on but internally, in private, no one really knows what it does to your mind, your self worth, your self value unless you too are, or were, overweight.  Keep n mind when I say overweight, for my situation I pretty much could say that I was 200 pounds overweight.  I will hope to hit the scales one day with a solid 200 pounds gone, if my body allows it o happen.

So now what can we do for these children suffering with weight issues today? Cheap food is usually eaten for economical and time efficiency purposes, running through the drive thru somewhere, grabbing whatever will fill the void the fastest, not considering the long term body-effect.  I like that term! I will continue to use that.  We can look at the body-effect of fast foods, prepackaged foods, etc versus eating healthy-fresh or frozen fruits and vegetables, lean proteins and minimal, non refined grains. The body-effect of making the fast choice is excess weight gain possibly, but then look internally what damage it could do with your heart, blood sugar, etc. not to mention the issues that could arise with joints and so on.  Now on the positive body-effect of making the healthier choices, you could experience weight loss, decreased levels of cholesterol, blood sugar, pain on joints and general overall feeling of goodness and health.

My new term…. Body-effect.  I like it! It says a lot.  Now, before eating I will personally try to be more aware of the body-effect that the food will provide.  Will it be a healthy choice for the body-effect that I want?  Absolutely!

On a personal note, I have been struggling. Writing helps me a lot.  If anyone reads it or not, it helps me.  The body-effect is great for me emotionally to release and share my thoughts.  I hope that someone, anyone, that might read my words will be helped through bringing awareness or thought to their own body.  Only you can do it for your body.  I am doing it for me!

if you follow me please feel free to respond.  Also I am now trying to post daily on my Facebook group Heather’s Healthy Habits, including what i eat at each meal, sometimes with pictures and recipes.  Just request to be my friend- Heather Shelton Gum or message me to be added to the group.

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