Comments for Gettin' Fine in 2009

Comment on Sneak Eating, Self-Sabotage, etc. by kellygram

kellygram — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 03:12:18 +0000

I can totally relate about the food sneaking. I don’t think much about binging until the hubby’s out running errands or gone fishing. Maybe not a turning point, but I faced my fear and told him what I’d been up to. Of course he didn’t care, but I felt hideous and BAD. The secrecy part, for me anyway, was what made me feel distant from my husband– not him. I still have the urge to binge when he’s not around, but I let myself do it and set limits (bake 3 cookies not 2 dozen, etc). Also I feel more in control as my weight loss progresses.
Hang in there! Trust yourself, you can do it… you’re here blogging, a sign that THIS TIME is different. And, don’t beat yourself up so much… the thought of someone taking a spoonful of rocky road to bed with them totally made me giggle! We’re all human, right?

Comment on Not Too Fine Yet by Melodee

Melodee — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 07:50:21 +0000

There’s still time in 2009! Good luck!

Comment on Not Too Fine Yet by Joaney

Joaney — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 17:11:24 +0000

Hey Gettin Fine!

I know I’ve said this several times but I feel like I’m reading my own journal when I read your blog. I have the same kinds of excuses for not eating right and exercising. It seems like my obsession with my weight has been going on forever. I’m always telling my husband that I’m going to start a diet on Monday. I do good for a few days and then something comes up and I blow it so decide to eat whatever and start again next Monday. I am getting so tired of always having to think about how to lose weight. I have the biggest library of diet books that you can imagine. I read one book and think “this is the diet that will work for me” and then I read another book and think the same thing and can’t make up my mind about what diet to follow. I think I just need to stop reading about diets and pick one and actually do it! I know that there’s no “magic diet” out there that will make it easy to lose weight. I need to think of this as a lifestyle change not a diet because as soon as you tell me I can’t have something, I obsess over that very thing. I hope we can both get our heads together and start moving forward. What diet plan are you hoping to follow?

Comment on New Gym, “Old” Trainer by Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 15:22:27 +0000

Hi Gettin Fine!

I’m so happy to see that you are posting again. I sent you a comment back in May. We are so similar in our situations - I’m 51 and 217 pounds. Going back and reading your previous blogs is like reading my own journals. I don’t have a blog yet - maybe I need to do that to have some accountability. I have managed to lose NO weight since that post in May. All summer I kept telling myself that I was going to get SERIOUS about losing weight beginning August 1. Well, a couple of weeks have gone past and I’m still in the same spot. It just seems so hopeless. I have until my daughter’s wedding on July 31, 2010 to finally make some changes and get rid of this weight. This should be the ultimate motivation since I hate pictures and I don’t think there’s anyway (as mother of the bride) that I can avoid them. I should be looking forward to her wedding and all I can think about is those damn pictures! Anyway, I look forward to following your journey and I’m hoping that we can both do this together!

Comment on New Gym, “Old” Trainer by kellygram

kellygram — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 05:10:39 +0000

“who wants to eat like a pig after you’ve worked out like a dog?”
love it!!

Comment on Self-Loathing by gettinfinein2009

gettinfinein2009 — Wed, 27 May 2009 00:13:06 +0000

Thank you to everyone who’s been kind enough so far to leave a response! I appreciate your taking the time, and I’m giving all your suggestions some thought.

Joaney, do you have a blog? I don’t see that username on 3fc. We’re so in the same place, I’d love to talk.

Comment on Self-Loathing by augustine

augustine — Fri, 22 May 2009 13:18:05 +0000

Hey, don’t hate yourself. I have realized that’s actually a reason to why I can’t stick to a diet, and maybe it’s the same for you. There is so much pressure everywhere that you NEED to lose weight, and how easy it is to do it. “Lose 5 pounds before your vacation!”, “This is the new ultra awesome diet that will help you lose that unwanted fat in no time!”, and almost every woman (and these days men, too) are stick thin. It’s like you don’t deserve to go on your vacation if you don’t lose those five pounds before you go. Yet more people than ever are overweight. I think one reason is because people are trying to reach society’s standards without taking into account their own WILL to lose weight or their own biology. I know I will never be stick thin, yet I have tried to be my entire life (but failed miserably), because wanting to be thin is such a natural wish these days. Like there’s something wrong with you if you DON’T want to lose weight.

So WHY do you want to lose weight? Being overweight does not make you a bad person. If you (and I mean YOU) want to lose weight anyway, do it at your pace and don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t go perfectly. Nothing ever does. And it’s just WEIGHT, it’s not your self-value or your character, it’s just WEIGHT.

Comment on Burn the Bleepin’ BIG BLACK PANTS!!!! by Susan Brodnax

Susan Brodnax — Tue, 19 May 2009 05:04:59 +0000

That is a great idea burn them! You can do it, you can get there if you truly want to. Dang I wish I had burned mine I gave mine away to a lady that I worked with.

Comment on Self-Loathing by Susan Brodnax

Susan Brodnax — Tue, 19 May 2009 05:00:18 +0000

Hi There. First I want to say don’t hate yourself. There are tons and tons of people that feel the same way you do and shouldn’t. The way our world is today is driving people to gain weight. The diet industry is full of quick fixes that not only don’t last after you stop taking them but they also damage your internal organs (I wrote a couple articles about it). So yeah if you can return that Alli you bought do it.
I think if you get down deep in to your reasons behind the way you eat you can find a way to work through the tough times when you normally want to binge. You seem as though you feel a bit out of control right now with your thoughts going in many ways.
There are ways to lose the weight without dieting. There are ways to keep some of your favorite foods in your weight loss plan so you don’t feel the need to “cheat”. Thinking eating something you want as “cheating” is the wrong way to think. When you think of it that way you automatically think of yourself as a failure and that is when people spin out of control. You don’t have to be on a strict “diet” to lose weight. You don’t have to work out like crazy to get the body you want.
You need support too. Support is very important. You also don’t need to pay an arm and a leg to get the help you need, again that is some of the diet industries way of making money. The diet industry has molded people to think and feel exactly the way you do (I have an article on this subject too). You can have a weight loss plan that still has things you enjoy and is flexible to meet your personal needs. Everyone is different so each person should have their own plan, I don’t think there is a one stop shop with it comes to weight loss.
I was overweight too. I took off 80 pounds and I have kept it off for over 2 years now. It took me about 10 months to do it but it was the best thing that ever happened to me and it has gotten me to where I am today in more ways than one.
Oh and for the exercise, do you like to dance? If you do try that for an hour a day. I find it to not only provide exercise but I am able to get everything out when I do it (Ha, I am a single mom who works from home so I get bogged down and it is a great outlet). Hard to explain but I feel great after an hour it is very uplifting. I hope this might have been some help. Susan

Comment on Self-Loathing by sunnygee

sunnygee — Tue, 19 May 2009 00:52:10 +0000

First off, as long as you continue (what I believe to be) unconscious eating, you aren’t going to lose any (significant) weight. You have to stop and think about what you are eating, BEFORE you eat it. What is working for me is the question: am I hungry above the neck, or below it? If it’s above the neck, that means it’s mental/emotional and you need to find another way to fill that need, besides food. If your stomach is hungry, then you need to feed it food that is GOOD for you. NOT junk. Eating has to stop being a knee-jerk reaction to life. To boredom, to anger, to stress, to celebrate, to reward. If you can’t get to that spot, it’s going to be hard to get the weight off and keep it off. You have to stop being lazy about eating and what you eat and why and when you eat. Once you can achieve this, true loss can begin and be sustained. An excellent book is “The Solution” by Laurie Mellin. In any case, good luck, and don’t give up!!!