Comments for Confessions of a Raging Chocoholic http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising Because the Magic Broke. Thu, 24 May 2012 21:49:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 Comment on Boohiss. by pepagirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/09/16/boohiss/#comment-261 pepagirl Mon, 30 Jan 2012 06:10:20 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=159#comment-261 How have you been? Update? Hope that you are well! How have you been? Update? Hope that you are well!

]]> Comment on Day #15, Weigh-In! by jewlz280 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/09/16/day-15-weigh-in/#comment-260 jewlz280 Fri, 16 Sep 2011 14:14:28 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=158#comment-260 Woot! Congrats! Great way to get started! :D Woot! Congrats! Great way to get started! :D

]]> Comment on And so it goes. by jewlz280 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/09/12/and-so-it-goes/#comment-259 jewlz280 Thu, 15 Sep 2011 12:48:44 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=154#comment-259 Ok, I've been thinking about this post for a few days now. I don't know you personally (obviously! lol) but for some reason, this post really spoke to me and I felt like I needed to think on it. And really, I get what people are saying and that you should trust him and tell him and blah blah blah. And I get what Pepa is saying, too. But coming from someone who has been married a long time now (going on 12yrs.) I can say that all relationships are different and maybe your hubby is a talker. I'm not sure. Either way, this isn't about him... it's about you. And that's it. You shouldn't tell him for him; or for anyone else. You should tell him for YOU. It's not about being fair to him or coming clean with him or even talking to a counselor. I get that you are upset and hurt and traumatized. But the ONLY way you are ever going to deal with it, get out of the emotional state you are in, and take CONTROL of it is to do just that. TAKE CONTROL OF IT. And usually the only way to do that is to confront it and OWN it. Accept it is a part of you. Accept that you need to talk about it when you're ready. Only then will you be free from it. And you deserve that. Because right now, the only thing holding anyone back is you holding you back. If you and your hubby want to make it through this, you will. If not, then, so be it. Either way you are never going to be truly happy and at peace until you take the beast by the horns and make it your bitch. Not to be overly graphic, but that's the truth. But you CAN do it. You can do it for you. And not just for the you of right now, but for the future you that you want to be. That woman you see 10 years from now. For that family YOU want down the road. For any kids and grandkids that woman may have. Good luck on your journey and I really hope that I've made sense with this post. I want you to know you are supported. I really do love this 3FC community and the space we have to 'vent'. :) Ok, I’ve been thinking about this post for a few days now. I don’t know you personally (obviously! lol) but for some reason, this post really spoke to me and I felt like I needed to think on it. And really, I get what people are saying and that you should trust him and tell him and blah blah blah. And I get what Pepa is saying, too. But coming from someone who has been married a long time now (going on 12yrs.) I can say that all relationships are different and maybe your hubby is a talker. I’m not sure. Either way, this isn’t about him… it’s about you.

And that’s it. You shouldn’t tell him for him; or for anyone else. You should tell him for YOU. It’s not about being fair to him or coming clean with him or even talking to a counselor. I get that you are upset and hurt and traumatized. But the ONLY way you are ever going to deal with it, get out of the emotional state you are in, and take CONTROL of it is to do just that. TAKE CONTROL OF IT. And usually the only way to do that is to confront it and OWN it. Accept it is a part of you. Accept that you need to talk about it when you’re ready. Only then will you be free from it. And you deserve that.

Because right now, the only thing holding anyone back is you holding you back. If you and your hubby want to make it through this, you will. If not, then, so be it. Either way you are never going to be truly happy and at peace until you take the beast by the horns and make it your bitch. Not to be overly graphic, but that’s the truth. But you CAN do it. You can do it for you. And not just for the you of right now, but for the future you that you want to be. That woman you see 10 years from now. For that family YOU want down the road. For any kids and grandkids that woman may have.

Good luck on your journey and I really hope that I’ve made sense with this post. I want you to know you are supported. I really do love this 3FC community and the space we have to ‘vent’. :)

]]> Comment on And so it goes. by pepagirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/09/12/and-so-it-goes/#comment-258 pepagirl Tue, 13 Sep 2011 17:06:27 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=154#comment-258 I know you must be feeling like you are spiraling down and around in so many directions right now and it's hard to figure out where to focus. You have to pick something or someone to focus on though or you'll just keep falling down until you hit bottom. I've been there and I know how bad it hurts. Take care of yourself first and then your marriage, I know that your first instinct is to cling to him, but in a man's mind it's not what they want in times like these. I have found over the years that anytime there has been a serious issue lurking in our relationship that the action with the best outcome was to invest in myself while still showing my husband that I cared. I think that most men prefer to be alone with theirs thoughts for a while before they are ready to truly talk about them. I'd give my husband this time and focus on me then. We had this agreement I guess you'd call it, that even when we fought we would still tell eachother that we loved one another each day, that way there was no confusion as to where we stood and it really made getting through the day a lot easier. I hope that something I have said here helps, either way I wish you the best. -Pepa I know you must be feeling like you are spiraling down and around in so many directions right now and it’s hard to figure out where to focus. You have to pick something or someone to focus on though or you’ll just keep falling down until you hit bottom. I’ve been there and I know how bad it hurts. Take care of yourself first and then your marriage, I know that your first instinct is to cling to him, but in a man’s mind it’s not what they want in times like these. I have found over the years that anytime there has been a serious issue lurking in our relationship that the action with the best outcome was to invest in myself while still showing my husband that I cared. I think that most men prefer to be alone with theirs thoughts for a while before they are ready to truly talk about them. I’d give my husband this time and focus on me then. We had this agreement I guess you’d call it, that even when we fought we would still tell eachother that we loved one another each day, that way there was no confusion as to where we stood and it really made getting through the day a lot easier. I hope that something I have said here helps, either way I wish you the best. -Pepa

]]> Comment on And so it goes. by suckmyfat http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/09/12/and-so-it-goes/#comment-257 suckmyfat Mon, 12 Sep 2011 20:37:17 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=154#comment-257 Hang in there, Love conquers all, even tough times and the past. Good Luck with every thing. Hang in there, Love conquers all, even tough times and the past. Good Luck with every thing.

]]> Comment on And so it goes. by awaken http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/09/12/and-so-it-goes/#comment-256 awaken Mon, 12 Sep 2011 20:25:54 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=154#comment-256 Hey, It is ok. i know what u are talking about. It is hard to trust people. I had the same issue w my fiance, i was too inestable and unable to share my past with him. But when I did, what difference that was! To make the long story short, if you want to save ur marriage, first pray, get closer to God (whatever ur understanding of Him is) get courage and talk to ur husband. If he really really loves u, he will understand and try to help u. Is not that u are stressing him out, no. You are a couple, and u are supposed to help each other. But u have to open up a little and get help. It was pretty hard. But after 2 years of that decision, my life is completely different. Yeah I still have issues but all the weight got lifted up of my shoulders and I can walk free again. I am sure he loves u. just give ur marriage and urself a chance. All the best, Cintia www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blog/awaken Hey,
It is ok. i know what u are talking about.
It is hard to trust people. I had the same issue w my fiance, i was too inestable and unable to share my past with him.
But when I did, what difference that was!
To make the long story short, if you want to save ur marriage, first pray, get closer to God (whatever ur understanding of Him is) get courage and talk to ur husband. If he really really loves u, he will understand and try to help u. Is not that u are stressing him out, no. You are a couple, and u are supposed to help each other. But u have to open up a little and get help.
It was pretty hard. But after 2 years of that decision, my life is completely different. Yeah I still have issues but all the weight got lifted up of my shoulders and I can walk free again.
I am sure he loves u.
just give ur marriage and urself a chance.
All the best,
Cintia
http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blog/awaken

]]> Comment on Not a lot. by pepagirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/09/10/not-a-lot/#comment-255 pepagirl Sat, 10 Sep 2011 14:42:38 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=153#comment-255 Im so sorry to hear of all your struggles as of late, but I am happy to hear from you again. I plan on making a quite long and detailed entry of what I have been going through lately too and some of it is similar to what has been going on with you. DH and I have managed to come to a better place in spite of what has been going on though and I hope that if you read it, it will give you some encouragement. Hang in there and I hope to hear more from you soon! -Pepa Im so sorry to hear of all your struggles as of late, but I am happy to hear from you again. I plan on making a quite long and detailed entry of what I have been going through lately too and some of it is similar to what has been going on with you. DH and I have managed to come to a better place in spite of what has been going on though and I hope that if you read it, it will give you some encouragement. Hang in there and I hope to hear more from you soon! -Pepa

]]> Comment on Hey There, Ladies by losingit2010 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/06/05/hey-there-ladies/#comment-254 losingit2010 Mon, 25 Jul 2011 02:03:47 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=152#comment-254 Hey I read your blog and you have a lot on your plate. I took a LOA myself last winter, too much going on. I am back now and here to support you however you need it, take care Hey I read your blog and you have a lot on your plate. I took a LOA myself last winter, too much going on. I am back now and here to support you however you need it, take care

]]> Comment on Hey There, Ladies by jewlz280 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/06/05/hey-there-ladies/#comment-253 jewlz280 Thu, 23 Jun 2011 14:06:03 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=152#comment-253 Hey! Hope things are still going well. Hadn't seen a post from you for a while, so wanted to check in on ya! Hey! Hope things are still going well. Hadn’t seen a post from you for a while, so wanted to check in on ya!

]]> Comment on Hey There, Ladies by pepagirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/2011/06/05/hey-there-ladies/#comment-252 pepagirl Tue, 21 Jun 2011 17:35:56 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/garnetrising/?p=152#comment-252 Latest Weigh In- 155.0 Sunday June 19th Still have you in my thoughts and prayers, hope all is well. Latest Weigh In- 155.0 Sunday June 19th

Still have you in my thoughts and prayers, hope all is well.

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