So I was reading the Staging Your Comeback book again and Christopher Hopkins, the Makeover Guy, was helping us to find our *type,* or maybe it was our *style.*
He said, “If you want to be appreciated for who you are, it helps to present those qualities in how you look.”
Wow. Here is my version. I shouldn’t expect people to constantly be seeing me differently than I present myself.
My survey indicated that I am mostly an *innovative* type, which makes sense, if you know me.
One word I would use to describe my *style* would be ”eclectic,” and I can see that those are both somewhat coming from the same place. Of course, being eclectic, my type grayed over into several other areas as well — us eclectics can’t ever seem to settle for anything all one style! LOL
Here are the words I picked to describe me:
- innovative
- creative
- classy (only in my mind, this decade! LOL)
- sharp
- fun
- free-spirited
It hit me today that I quite often live, look and act like an old woman who has just given up on what I eat, what I wear, my hair, my make-up, exercise, etc.
But then I want people to see me and think of me as active, happy, vibrant, alive… Someone thinking and doing cool stuff. Well, why don’t I act like that? And look like that? I’m sending one message and wanting people to have another impression of me.
What I am asking people to do is constantly over-look the evidence in front of them, and see me as someone I’m not, or at least as someone I don’t look like.
Well, people who don’t know me aren’t going to know how I want them to think of me. And even people who do know me would have to constantly *override* the image I’m portraying right in front of them.
I’m expecting people to *see* me as something different than who I am looking or acting like!
I’m so glad I started wearing make-up again! LOL And started working on getting clothes I feel good about, instead of doing *desperation dressing,* wearing the styles most plus size departments seem to carry. It is okay to look sharp in a size 22! NO MORE FRUMP!
I’m not one so I won’t dress like one. 
Here are 5 words I came up with to describe how I would like people to see me. This is not about my *style,* but about who people see when they see me.
- together
- happy
- healthy
- caring
- fun
“Fun” means so many things to me. It means not only “likes to have fun” and “willing to have fun” but “wants you to have fun” and “is relaxed about things,” even “doesn’t take herself too seriously.” How about “knows it is okay to enjoy life?”
How do you portray yourself by the way you look and what words would you like your looks to speak about you?
