Hello and good morning. I hope that you all had a wonderful weekend. I had so much fun trick or treating with my two youngest.
I got an e-mail from my DSis today. My family relations on my side of the family are very strained. VERY dysfunctional is putting it mildly! My re-newed speaking with my sister is fresh, tentative, etc…. My siblings are VERY VERY VERY enabling to my DM in her mental illness and abusive nature. Something I had to walk away from for the sake of my children and marriage. However my mom made them choose between her (and her millions) and me. I found myself without a family for years. I am sure my sister is keeping her re-newed sisterhood with me a secret (I don’t really care) But I have not see my mom in over 3 1/2 years. Now i hear she might be ill. Real ill, Cancer ill. My mother does not believe in doctors and will never go to one. However she has lost over 40 pounds in 4 months, cant eat most things anymore, and cannot use salt at all anymore. a BIG HUGE deal for a woman who always like a side of food with her salt!!!! She wont speak to me, hell she has never even seen my youngest DS because she hates me so much. I am not sure what to do. DH wants nothing to do with her. Yeah it is that bad. Remember the mother and grandmother from the book “Flowers in the Attic” THAT is my mom! I love her and always will but I just don’t know what to do. Or maybe it is not my choice if she hates me that much . A lot to think about.
Oh yeah I turned 43 today.. sigh so old!!!!!
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GOOD note: Going to be sunny today, going to take a walk after Ds therapy, and DH is taking me out to lunch for b-day. :) My 10 year old DS is sooooo cute and wanted to play hooky to spend day with me on my b-day. He has to go to school but that was such a sweet try. LOLOLOL
Toodles!
Posted on November 2nd, 2009 by Joy
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I’m sorry to hear that about your mother.
My father is a terrible person and I haven’t spoken to him in 5 years for my sanity- people tell me from time to time that I should speak with him but I tell them that’s like saying give Hitler a second chance.
My father also has a lot of money but I don’t care- I’d rather be poor than deal with that again. I hear he tells people from time to time he wants to speak to me- but I don’t believe he’s changed.
It’s ultimately up to you - good luck.
Happy birthday!
Sorry about the situation with your mother. The choice is yours but you don’t want to have any regrets after she passes so do what you think is best for you.