Daoism: Taoism (or Daoism) refers to a variety of related philosophical and religious traditions that have influenced Eastern Asia for more than two millennia, and have had a notable influence on the western world since the 19th century. The word 道, Tao (or Dao, depending on the romanization scheme), literally translated as “path” or “way”, although in Chinese folk religion and philosophy it carries more abstract meanings. Taoist propriety and ethics emphasize the Three Jewels of the Tao: compassion, moderation, and humility, while Taoist thought generally focuses on nature, the relationship between humanity and the cosmos (天人相应), health and longevity, and wu wei (action through inaction), which is thought to produce harmony with the universe.
The above definition is from wikipedia.
After many years of struggle with relationships, me taking too much from someone, or giving too much. I learned to ask myself “what is the compassionate thing to do? what is compassionate for myself? I had to learn to take care of myself first. me first/food plan first/ exercise first. If I don’t do this simple things, then there will not be a me to do caregiving.
Reading between the lines you can see that I have an addictive personality. Yup. Over the last 26 years, i have learned to live with and modify the personality. I have changed negative behaviors to positive ones. I have learned to be humble and grateful even on days when the scale is up or when my mood is down.
i am not my addiction, I am me.
Thinking of the yin/yang symbol also helps me. I like to put thinks in categories, to analize, and quantify.this is why I chose the portion control method for my weight loss plan. I think everyone knows the western idea of yin/yang. The eastern view in a nutshell says:
Again the above is from wikipedia.
For me, an important part was the recognition that black and white thinking is delusional thinking. In relationships no one is all ‘good’ or ‘bad’ or useful or not useful, or skillful or not skillful. or for that matter no woman is completely yin. no man is completely yang.
Enough for today. Tomorrow: the yin/yang of food