Lesson learned
The Thursday workout in my Chalean Extreme is a favorite b/c it focuses on legs (including the calves) and shoulders. I decided to sleep in this morning, if you count sleeping until 5 am sleeping in!! Anyway, I came home after school and did my workout and then went outside to cut the grass. Woohoo, doggie, pushing a lawnmower up and down hills after doing many sets of squats and lunges isn’t easy. I definitely worked my legs today, but I will remember not to piggyback these 2 workouts EVER AGAIN!
Tomorrow is Friday and I can’t believe how quickly these last 2 weeks have gone. Especially toward the end of the school year things tend to get crazy and difficult but the time is flying by. I do think it has something to do w/the workout program I’m on b/c my workout week starts on Sunday, so it makes Monday feel like Tuesday, Tuesday feel like Wednesday…you get the picture. Who cares, time is going quickly and soon it will be summer!
Last night was kind of a downer but I think I handled it well. We were having supper and my older son said “I wish I didn’t have a brother like Kyle.” I asked him what he meant and he said that he doesn’t think it’s fair that I can’t play w/him b/c I always have to take care of his brother. I told him that I didn’t like it either, but that even if he had a healthy brother that there would be times I couldn’t play with him b/c of my other responsibilities. Then he started talking about how sad he is that Kyle is going to die before we are and how he’ll miss him. Talk about breaking your heart. I told him that I truly believe that once Kyle gets to heaven that he’ll be able to walk and talk just like we can and when we join him there that he’ll be able to tell us everything that he has been wanting to say for all of these years. I also said that because of this that we had better make sure that we’re nice to Kyle, otherwise he might have angry things to say when he can finally talk to us. And that Kyle being sick reminds us that we need to enjoy every minute we have with each other. Such a heavy load for a 6-year old to bear.
Progress toward food goal: 3/285
Progress toward workout goal: 5/300
It’s wonderful that your son feels comfortable enough to share these thoughts with you - it’s not easy being a sibling of a child with special needs and it was very healthy of him to express his concerns and worries. YOU, Ms. Brseay, you handled it perfectly!
PS.. I don’t know where else to post this because I don’t have your actual email address to contact you privately - but you appear to have entered two entries on the 12th in the W8C daily stars table. You can delete one of them by clicking on the date and then scroll down and click on Delete.
Wow my eyes are all teary. That is definitely sad. I hope he doesn’t remember saying that if/when Kyle does pass on, or atleast doesn’t feel regretful of it. I didn’t know that was to be. I’m sorry to hear this. You handled it very well.
Here’s my reply to your comment-
Thanks brseay- that’s an idea. I do see alot of people wearing things like that. Some wear vests, some wear ankle or wrist weights, some wear these things that look like garbage bags (maybe to sweat more?) I’m still stuck on it looking silly. I wonder if the vest would even fit me. I’ll keep it in mind though.
I did manage to do more of the ‘intense’ cardio tonight. the original plan was to do it every morning but I was wiped out and didn’t go until this evening. I guess that’s what I need to be looking for. I’m gonna post about tonight tomorrow. I think I’ve found one of the things I need. Now to work on the food thing…
Thanks again
You helped your son so much, Brandi, by recognizing his need to talk about things honestly and not making him feel bad for what he it. Wish I were that controlled and insightful. Big Hugs going to you, girlfriend. BTW, did you ever find out for sure about what you’re doing next year?
Brandi,
It was trly humbling and a blessing to see the way that you handled that. You are such a loving and understanding mom. You knew how to say the exact right thing. I can learn from you that is for sure!
Good job on the double workout!
It’s so hard to balance the needs of all the kids. I know my other kids sometimes resent Sean, when we can’t have fast food or “normal” food because he is allergic. Can’t go places or do things because he won’t be able to handle it. And Sean is super-high functioning on the autism scale. He doesn’t really restrict us that much. But kids are kids and naturally egocentric - and so when things outside of themselves effect them, they don’t understand. And while it may seem hard on him now, your son is learning a lesson that most people never learn. Compassion, empathy, putting other people’s needs before their own, sympathy, nuturing, selflessness… Kyle is teaching him so much. Someday he’ll be able to look back and see that. Being the parent, that’s the toughest part. Because you’re heart is breaking for both kids. And life isn’t fair. And you can’t fix that. Just know, you handled it beautifully!
Thanks a bunch for your comments, advice and suggestions! Always appreciated and accepted, please don’t hesitate. Way to go on your awesome workouts. Very inspiring
AWWW that…. is… soooo…. sad… and sweet at the same time. I have to wipe my eyes before my boss walks in and goes why on earth are you crying!?
I agree it’s great he feels comfortable enough to express him to you vs bottling it up and resenting his brother.
Maybe once a week you or your hubby can take your other son out for a few hours of alone time just with him. That way one parent can be with Kyle and your other son gets some one on one time with mom or dad?