I will succeed
I think I wrote yesterday that I made it through the cupcake baking so now this morning I have to get through the frosting of the cupcakes and then the birthday party. The day has started out on the right foot which will help me to be strong. Kyle slept in until almost 7 am (hooray) and then I got in my hour of pilates and weight lifting for upper body. I have my healthy breakfast in my tummy and the rest of the morning will be spent getting ready for the party. I will time my morning snack for the time we frost cupcakes and then pop in a piece of gum right away or brush my teeth to keep me from licking frosting. During the party I’ll eat lunch right before we leave and then chew gum during the party. I’m also going to bring a baggie of almonds to munch on just in case I struggle. The good news is that since Sunday is the day I’m more relaxed w/my eating if I REALLY want a cupcake I can have one tomorrow w/o guilt. I desperately want to see 231 tomorrow so it is worth the sacrifice.
I also brought up an issue w/my hubby that has been bothering me for a while so I’m not dealing w/as many emotions. As many of you know we struggle w/our incompatible sex drives. I want it more, he’s like a camel who can go for much longer. What I try to explain to him is that it’s not even the sex, it’s the physical contact. Giving me a hug as he walks by is helpful. Grab my ass, cop a feel, whatever. It lets me know that he’s at least interested even if we’re both too exhausted by the time we’re able to crawl in bed at night. I had been trying to let this issue go until after he finishes this last semester of school b/c I know he’s stressed but I started wondering if things will really change once he’s done. It’s not like our lives will go from busy to leisurely or that we won’t have any stress at all. He knew all night that something was bothering me but I wasn’t ready to talk about it yet so I said that I was tired. Later, though, I asked him if he thought that things would improve dramatically once he was done w/school. As we were talking I told him that sometimes I felt that even though I know that he loves me I didn’t really know if he was IN love w/me. He acknowledged that he needed to do better in this area and so far things have been better. I know that he’s stressed and tired but if we don’t plan times to be a couple then we’re just going to grow apart. Part of my frustration, too, is that I know that he’s tired all of the time b/c he eats like crap and doesn’t exercise. Two or 3 nights a week he eats a frozen pizza and noodles for supper. Hello, carbs anyone??? Of course he doesn’t want to do anything other than watch tv and collapse in his chair.
OK, I know that I’m preaching to the choir. He wants to be healthier and this summer will be a good time to make changes. I’m trying to walk that line of being supportive w/o being bossy. Too bad he wasn’t one of my students, I could just make him do what I want. If anyone has been successful in helping someone start a healtheir lifestyle I would love to get some tips.
Days on plan this month: 11
Progress toward workout goal: 197/250
If you get any good tips let me know. My hubby is the same way. He eats for shit. He was blessed with a good metabolism and that combined with having to move a little for his job has spared him. But, he has no energy and always wants to do nothing. It drives me nuts.
On the other hand, it’s probably intimidating to have such a badass wife. I mean, remember when you first started changing things… what you do now would have looked like WAY crazy! Trick him into baby steps.
It must be so hard staying on plan while partnered with someone who is unconcerned about diet and exercise. Way to stay strong!! I love to bake and cook and your strategy of timing healthy snacks with things like the frosting of cupcakes etc. is very savvy and smart- I’m going to try it out next time to eliminate snacking. keep on truckin’!
AJ (lucy’s mom. . . )
I know what you mean about the hubbs, Brandie. They don’t have to watch things as carefully as women do and it’s hard to get them motivated.
I can get my DH to eat healthy if I’m working my butt off to fix great, healthy meals from scratch but there’s no way he’ll join me in having a salad for dinner or soup unless he’s got a big, fat sandwich and chips to go with it.
As far as exercise goes, forget it. This man is NOT going to exercise. It gets embarrassing sometimes. We’ll be out with friends and decide to walk around and he absolutely refuses. He’ll complain and whine until it drives me up a wall. We’ll be sightseeing and decide to walk a little 1/4 loop to see something and he’ll say, “I am NOT hiking. I’ll wait here and you guys go ahead.”
The thing is, all that stuff catches up with you. He eats crap, munches on peanuts and drinks four or five beers every evening while he watches TV and doesn’t get any exercise AT ALL. We’re finally getting to the age where retirement is actually in the near future and I don’t want to retire and spend the next twenty years nursing an invalid. If you try to keep yourself healthy and have a stroke or heart attack, that’s one thing. But to set up a lifestyle that pretty much GUARANTEES you’re going to have one is another. If you figure out how to fix this, let me know. I want to get on board!
On the other hand, YOU are doing fabulous! I know you’re going to meet your goal. Go, Brandie!
Back in the old days, my hubby ran and I did nothing for exercise. Now I BEG him to run with me, and he refuses. And, hello, the whole reason I started running in the first place, as opposed to doing something FUN like pilates or swimming, was so we could do it together.
On the plus side for us, his diet is what I make it, because he would never think to make himself a pizza or noodles. He eats what I cook, so I do have that going for me. But he is a fast food junkie at lunch time.
And on the sex side of things, good for you for talking about it and getting it out there. I applaud you for speaking your mind, taking matters into your own hands and trying to make changes.