Wish I could read minds
I am involved in a committe at school and the topic is discipline/student behavior. I was asked to be on it, which I do take as a compliment, but I also know that I wasn’t my boss’ first choice. He and I have not always seen eye to eye on things so I’m sure he wasn’t thrilled to ask me. Anyway, we met after school today and the task was defining what calls for sending a kid to the office, how to handle various disciplinary situations, etc. I planned to go to the meeting and kind of keep my mouth shut but that plan fell by the wayside within a few minutes. And even though the majority of the group agreed with my comments I have no clue how my principal felt. I may or may not have mentioned it but he is a big picture person (he has fantastic vision) but I am a detail person. My questions frustrate him and his lack of clairty frustrates me. In all honesty, I don’t even care all that much what he thinks of me, I just want to know. And the reason that this is causing me such distress is that I go into these meetings, open my mouth thinking that I’m going to make a difference, and then feel like I’m getting shot down time after time. Oh well, I’m home now, so I don’t want to waste any more time letting this influence my evening.
After our meeting I hit the gym for a shortened workout. Since it was short I upped the intensity and was still able to burn almost 700 calories in 35 minutes. If they ever remove the treadclimbers from the gym I’m going to cry.
Progress toward workout goal: 102/250
hey there. you can’t control what he thinks. you obviously made some killer points, good for you. eff him. men are dolts anyways.
i’m not trying to make light of your situation; i just know YOU have good vision. you’re a smart woman. towanda!!!
Okay, this might sound hokey, but have you ever taken the myers-briggs personality test? http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp
I find knowing my personality type (and big grain of salt here…it isn’t 100% scientific to think there are a finite number of personalities out there) & being able to understand some of the other types really helps me understand what’s going on when I feel like I’m not clicking with a co-worker.
Also, as grabthebull notes, men are dolts, especially men in power.
Hang in there…he’ll come around the more he sees others nodding and agreeing with you. & maybe he feels like he’s not detail-oriented enough anyway & then being around you just drives that point home for him. Could be you’re feeling him react to his own insecurities.
You’re a part of the committee. You wouldn’t be there if they didn’t want to hear what you have to say, so good for you for saying your piece!
I suspect he is a smart guy - smart people actually put people with different points of view on work teams to make sure they cover different bases. So I don’t think you’d be there if he didnt respect you and count on you to bring a different perspective.
I’m impressed w the high-intensity workout you squeezed in afterwards!
It’s the DETAILS that MAKE the big picture work. Sometimes I feel like one of those little ankle nipping dogs on projects. I think we are alike on this.
OMG, Brandie. You and I are living parallel lives. I felt the exact same way about my former principal. I never knew where I stood with him and felt like he didn’t respect my work or my views.
Soooo much better with our new principal (female). I feel like she listens and respects my opinion. Hope this guy gives you the credit you deserve.