If it’s not one thing it’s another
It’s 3:30 and I’m up, I’m guessing for the rest of the day. Starting at 10:30 I was up about every 30 minutes. Once I got Kyle sleeping well my older son was coughing. He has a sinus infection and the meds haven’t fully kicked in. Then Kyle woke up for real at 2:30. Oh well, what can you do?
The biggest thing I’m freaking out about is the behavior of my older son. Do all parents wonder at some point if their child is going to be in the behavior disorder program at school?? Seriously, I’m starting to get worried. He always has been such a good boy and everyone says that if they are well-behaved everywhere else but naughty at home that it’s normal. Actually, it’s good. But yesterday he refused to go to daycare. He’s only 5! We kept him home on Monday from preschool because he was sick (he goes to preschool MWF). He goes to daycare on Tues/Thurs and loves every minute of it other than the fact that he has to rest for an hour in the afternoon. So yesterday my hubby was trying to get him to clean the gunk out of his nose because we knew they would take one look at it and send him home. The only option would have been to hold him down and rip the boogers out of his nose. I talked to him on the phone and discovered that he really wasn’t sick but that he wanted to stay home and watch a new cartoon that we had picked up at the library the day before. He also didn’t want to take a nap. I explained to him that if he insisted that he was sick that he would have to lay in bed all day and wouldn’t watch cartoons. He agreed.
I know this doesn’t make him a BD kid but he has always been so good that I’m not sure if we handled this the right way. I also want to make sure that we don’t start heading down the slippery slope of having a raging brat. After all, I don’t think most parents of total brats actually realize how awful their kids are. And I worry that with all of the other things that we’re dealing with that nobody would feel right about telling us that our previously “good boy” is turning into a snotty kid. It also doesn’t help that I’m reading a book right now about how to teach Oppositional and Defiant Children and I of course see a bit of my son in every example. It reminds me of when I was in psych class and diagnosed myself with every mental illness under the sun. But seriously, if any experiened parents have words of wisdom I would greatly appreciate it.
Diet-wise this week is still getting off to a slow start. I have been fairly good with food but haven’t worked out yet. Tonight I won’t be able to, either, because my son has physical therapy after school and my hubby has night class. But tomorrow I meet with my physical trainer so it will be a new start. And, I’m going to weigh myself this morning to see how much damage I did over the weekend. I still have my goal of being under 250 by the end of the school year and I want to know exactly how far I need to push myself to meet my goal.
Sorry for the rambling, thanks for reading.
I know you’re probably going to hate me for saying this but as far as your 5 year old is concerned, it’s a phase. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck. Since he isn’t having issues at daycare then BD is unlikely. My daughter has ADHD and it was more than just being naughty. She would just lean over and bite her brother (for example) no warning or preamble. Just out of the blue and she would draw blood too. She was worse at daycare with all the action going on there it was just too much for her to handle. She was finally diagnosed when she was 6. The medication has transformed her into the sunny, warm and caring kid that I always knew she was.
I think that making your oldest go to bed when he was trying to play at being sick was exactly the right thing to do. Don’t be so hard on yourself! My 5 year old was doing the same thing, but when he realized that he was going to have to stay in his room, in bed, with nothing to do, he made a miraculous recovery!