RANT!
It seems like all i do is bitch and complain….Let me tell you all about something that I just realized kinda bothers me..let me know if it would bother you all too or am I just overreacting .It’s about one of my closest friends…WHENEVER I see her/hang out with or run into..( I just seen her at the grocery store ) she ALWAYS greets me with “hey skinny bitch” or “hey skinny this or that” (this is just her and the way she jokes around–I dont take any offense to the bitch part of it at all)..but just that she always has to say something to me about being skinny..It’s ok to hear it once in a while but it’s ALL THE TIME..I know she’s told me that she’s proud of me but it kinda gets tiring after awhile…There’s more to me then losing weight..I don’t go on and on to her about my diet/weightloss and other than making these comments she doesn’t ask really how I am doing .Another thing that she told me recently is that she may start going to the gym with an ex- coworker—-she has expressed numerous times that she’s not that fond of her………I find it very odd because she knew I’d want to go or join up if I had a buddy..I’ve told her this many times before but I find it very odd that she wouldn’t ask me or invite me along..so all I said was well..if she ends up not going I’d love to go…I mentioned this to another close friend and her reply was perhaps because they both have so much weight to lose she’d feel a bit intimidated going with you who already has lost so much and doing quite well…It’s sad but it could be true…. ANYWAYS i recently won a free 5 day pass to this gym and might say the heck with going with anyone and just go by myself….The only thing I have to lose by going is a few lbs..lol.
Soo do u guys think I’m overreacting with the constant “skinny” comments????
Gosh I’m so glad that I haven’t told my friends or anyone about this blog..it’s like I can vent to you chicks and let it all out and not be afraid..lol!
Thanks girls..its great to hear all your opinions..i actually spoke to her last night and casually mentioned how she found the gym..she said she ended up not going because she was going to a family dinner….and she was like..”print off a free 3 day pass” on their site and come with us..sooo..I guess she isn’t as uncomfortable or is more comfortable if the other girl is with her..she is larger than my friend…I told her I’d wait until I received the 5 day pass the gym was mailing me….much rather a 5 day than a 3 day pass 
Hah I have a friend who does almost the exact same thing. I have been going up and down in lbs, and for the past 3 years when I’m looking good she always says things like “hey skinny minny” or “look at you, the incredible shrinking woman”. I think with her, it’s a way of trying to hide her insecurity and a little jealousy by overcompensating. It bothers me too, but I have never said anything to her about it. I hope it is something that will change with time, as she gets more confident in her body. By the way, you look incredible, you skinny bitch! (kidding) But really, wow!
I think the “skinny” thing is annoying, but not something she is doing to be annoying on purpose is my guess. You might have to just let this one go, unless you want to confront her on it. Or you could say, “get some new material, hon, because that line is getting OLD” or something jokey like that and maybe she’ll get the hint?
I think, based on what you’ve said, that she is just self conscious of her own weight and by your incredible loss (You look fantastic by the way!) you’ve brought her unhappiness into the limelight.
However, until she is ready to commit to helping herself, nothing you can say or do is going to make her change.
I would suggest, however, that if you wish to keep her as a friend, you explain to her nicely that by saying that all the time she is making you uncomfortable, and that you’d just rather not focus on your weight/size.
I think people play different roles. For her, you are an inspiration but your accomplishments are probably overwhelming or intimidating to her right now. I am like that. It would be like me having a running buddy who was far better than me. It would be more likely to discourage me than encourage me. So I would want someone who was right here with me, trying with all their might to be a runner. So if I were you, I would try to ignore the part about her considering going to the gym with someone else. But the skinny bitch part…that would get old. I think I might start with “UGH! WHY DO YOU INSIST ON CALLING ME THAT?!?” (said in a light hearted way) and give her a chance to explain herself. It could open up the conversation, but also she may not even realize she is doing it. I knew a man who says the word “awesome” honest to goodness a million times a day. I don’t think he realizes how often he says it.
maybe she’s calling you ’skinny’ without realising it and without meaning anything. on the other hand, it maybe her way of hiding her insecurity/jealousy…. you know the way we smile to hide our tears….if she’s a really good friend maybe you should talk to her about it….otherwise just ignore.
thanks for your encouraging words. am on the south beach diet. but am stuck after the first 10 pounds. i think i need to start exercising to jump-start the weight loss again. how’s the c25k program?
I like to believe most friends are truly friends and do things because they care. Having said that, I think calling you “skinny” is her way of recognizing your accomplishments and letting you know that she’s proud of you. You might just tell her casual conversation that you know she means well but it makes you uncomfortable.
As for the gym…I used to be that way. Wouldn’t dream of going with someone in great shape because it would intimidate me. Now I don’t care but I used to. She’s probably feeling the same way. Actually, I have a beautiful, athletic friend who asked if she could go with me this evening on a guest pass to check out the gym I belong to. I was glad to have her along but my regular workout buddy cancelled when she heard she would be coming. Said she didn’t feel comfortable and would skip tonight. So…there you go!